How do I talk my girl friend into having a three some with me and another guy so I can go down on both of them at the same time

How does your girlfriend view bisexuality?

Hi J_9
Thanks for the response.
You know I don't know we have talked about the two guys but I don't know if she knows that I would enjoy it more than her I think.
I have never done it and would not do it if it would put our relationship at jeopardy but I would like to I have to think that through
Thanks :)

Three-somes can be very detrimental to relationships. Jealousy can play a very big role once the deed is done.

While I don't agree with 3-somes, it ruined my marriage, it can work for some people, thus I won't pass judgment.

What you need is an open line of communication and define boundaries.

You need to ask her how she feels about homosexuality. This needs to be discussed in an area outside of the bedroom. Be prepared, though, that she may not be excited about the idea, thus it would be out of the question if you wish to remain in this relationship.

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Originally Posted by J_9

Three-somes can be very detrimental to relationships. Jealousy can play a very big role once the deed is done.

While I don't agree with 3-somes, it ruined my marriage, it can work for some people, thus I won't pass judgment.

What you need is an open line of communication and define boundaries.

You need to ask her how she feels about homosexuality. This needs to be discussed in an area outside of the bedroom. Be prepared, though, that she may not be excited about the idea, thus it would be out of the question if you wish to remain in this relationship.

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I didn't think about the jealous part, I know I really enjoy her taste and giving oral sex to women in the past for sure and would like to have both at the same time but we might have our blinders on

If you have never talked about it how are you going to feel if she totally rejects the idea and starts rejecting you? That is a tough one. You are asking her to share you with another man and that might be hard for her to accept. If my boyfriend every asked me for a threesome I would just lose it. But that is me. I don't want to see anyone else touching him.

You really do need to talk to her about many things before you throw the threesome into this and still be prepared for total rejection, or the whole experiment being an abject failure, because while some things can look good when you are thinking of them, the reality can be quite the opposite.

Start with talking to each other about your desires before you get to making them reality, or adding to them. I mean does she even know you're BI maybe? As other have said, think this through before you plunge head first into the unknown, then talk about it.

Your fantasy may NOT be hers.