Still Not Getting It After 4 years.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, and somehow he still lies to me, makes empty promises, and not understand my feelings. When he's upset, he would make up these crazy excuses why, instead of just telling me up front what it's really about. I usually know when he's mad, (especially when he is often calm), so it frustrates me more when I already know what he's mad about and won't say. However, when I'm upset, he is well aware of what upsets me, and he remains oblivious and clueless about it, which makes zero sense since he does the same old crap every time. When we talk, he would start saying one thing, and contradict himself in a later sentence. When I call him out on it, he tries to change the whole situation, as if I'm the crazy one. After a while, I've developed a short temper and a low tolerance for him, but I still love him. I want to be able to express myself to him without having to deal with whatever nonsense he might pull... How will I be able to manage, if possible?