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My parents hate me

I just can't write this without crying. My parents hate me, and I know it. They slapped me and yell at me when every I get bad grades or do accidents (drop stuff, forget to do take out the trash etc.) My dad barely talks to me. Everyday when I get home he is in his room typing up on the computer, and barely speaks. My mom is the same. They never love me, or try to comfort me when I have a hard time. I just hate it. Why am I destined to this life? What did I do? What can I do?

They're beating you and being verbally abusive as well. Call CPS, they'll come and assess the situation. If they find that you're in danger they'll remove you from the home and place you in foster care.

Now, let's hear the truth.

Do you do chores at home, make your bed every morning, do homework without being told time and again, get good grades or at least try your best, ask if there is anything extra you can do to help out, maybe bake a batch of cookies or cook a simple meal to help out now and then, sweep out the garage, wash up the bathroom without being told?

They don't let me use a phone. They are so strict to me. I can't go outside anywhere, nor can I play with my friends.

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Originally Posted by ninjaawsome

They don't let me use a phone. They are so strict to me. I can't go outside anywhere, nor can I play with my friends.

So contact CPS via email. They obviously let you use the computer.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Now, let's hear the truth.

Do you do chores at home, make your bed every morning, do homework without being told time and again, get good grades, ask if there is anything extra you can do to help out, maybe bake a batch of cookies or cook a simple meal to help out now and then, sweep out the garage, wash up the bathroom without being told?

I do most of the times, but some times I just forget. But usually I do it after they scold me. But I'm just sick and tired of them yelling.

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Originally Posted by ninjaawsome

I do most of the times, but some times i just forget. But usually I do it after they scold me. But im just sick and tired of them yelling.

Parents yell, especially if children don't listen. We are human too you know.

The yelling isn't an issue. The fact that they beat you, which you stated they do, is an issue. Physical abuse is against the law.

So contact CPS. If it's as bad as you say, they're the only ones that can help you.

Why do they allow you to use the computer, and not the phone?

I'm guessing you are about 9 years old and maybe want something they don't want to give you, like an iPod or tablet?

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Originally Posted by ninjaawsome

I do most of the times, but some times i just forget. But usually I do it after they scold me. But im just sick and tired of them yelling.

There's a solution for this -- do what they tell you and right away and cheerfully, and then they won't yell and, if you do a fantastic job, you will even get a smile and a hug.

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Originally Posted by Alty

Parents yell, especially if children don't listen. We are human too you know.

The yelling isn't an issue. The fact that they beat you, which you stated they do, is an issue. Physical abuse is against the law.

So contact CPS. If it's as bad as you say, they're the only ones that can help you.

Why do they allow you to use the computer, and not the phone?

I can use my dad's laptop for school work. And also they beat me for getting bad grade and for a reason. I am saying that this is too extreme and what should I do. They hit me for a reason, but I think its too much.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

There's a solution for this -- do what they tell you and right away and cheerfully, and then they won't yell and, if you do a fantastic job, you will even get a smile and a hug.

WG, the yelling isn't what concerns me. The OP stated that they beat her. If that's true, then this child needs help.

If she's unwilling to call or email CPS on her own, I think the mods have to take matters into their own hands. Her location can be tracked very easily. If she can't call and she's in danger, it's our responsibility to make sure she gets help. We can have the police there in a matter of minutes.

So really, it's up to her. If she's telling the whole truth, and she's too afraid to do anything about it, then we have to.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

There's a solution for this -- do what they tell you and right away and cheerfully, and then they won't yell and, if you do a fantastic job, you will even get a smile and a hug.

Ok I will try it.. Thanks!

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Originally Posted by ninjaawsome

I can use my dad's laptop for school work. And also they beat me for getting bad grade and for a reason. I am saying that this is too extreme and what should I do. They hit me for a reason, but I think its too much.

Like I said earlier, there's a solution for this -- do what they tell you and right away and cheerfully, and then they won't yell and, if you do a fantastic job, you will even get a smile and a hug.

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Originally Posted by Alty

WG, the yelling isn't what concerns me. The OP stated that they beat her. If that's true, then this child needs help.

If she's unwilling to call or email CPS on her own, I think the mods have to take matters into their own hands. Her location can be tracked very easily. If she can't call and she's in danger, it's our responsibility to make sure she gets help. We can have the police there in a matter of minutes.

So really, it's up to her. If she's telling the whole truth, and she's too afraid to do anything about it, then we have to.

I don't want to take something too extreme. I want to fix this first. There are some cases where they do listen to me. Like I asked them right now and they said they will in 5 minutes. (talk to me about my problems)

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Originally Posted by ninjaawsome

I can use my dad's laptop for school work. And also they beat me for getting bad grade and for a reason. I am saying that this is too extreme and what should I do. They hit me for a reason, but I think its too much.

You're on the computer right now, and you're not using it for school work. You're using it to get help on this site. So send a letter to CPS in your area.

We can track your location. If they're beating you, that's child abuse. We can have the police at your house in minutes.

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Originally Posted by Alty

WG, the yelling isn't what concerns me. The OP stated that they beat her. If that's true, then this child needs help.

If she's unwilling to call or email CPS on her own, I think the mods have to take matters into their own hands. Her location can be tracked very easily.

Yes, I have already tracked her location.

What should I tell them. They said now they will try to listen. But what should I ask from them in specific?

By beat, I don't mean like hit with a rod or soemthing. It's a slap. Sorry if its not clear

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Originally Posted by ninjaawsome

I dont want to take something too extreme. I want to fix this first. There are some cases where they do listen to me. Like i asked them right now and they said they will in 5 minutes. (talk to me about my problems)

There is no way to fix child abuse other than to remove the child from the home, put the parents in jail, and hope that while they're in jail, they get help.

You told us they beat you. That is an extreme situation, and the only way to handle an extreme situation is to do something extreme.

If you won't call CPS, we will.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Yes, I have already tracked her location.

I don't want this to happen. I just want somehow to make my parents understand