So here's my situation its kind of a long story. My boyfriend of 3 years is starting to be more distant from me, like after he gets of work at five he hangs out with his friends till nine or ten then comes home and goes to bed right away. He has two days off and we live with parents and they were going to be gone for the day which they never do and I thought cool we will have quality time together which rarely happens, nope I thought wrong he left telling me hed be right back, not true was gone all day without calling. Our sex life has gone down the drain everything has, when we moved out of this town our relationship was 100% better, but we had to move back here cause we got laid off from our jobs, and our relationship is bad again. I don't know what to do I'm sad and angry all the timei have no friends in this stupid town and my family hates me, I have no job, and I have no where to go but I'm so unhappy, please help any will be greatly appreciated.

You need to get a social life instead of sitting around waiting for him. If you can't find work, do some volunteer work, that will get you out of the house and around other people.
How old are you?

Homegirl's answer is Great! Being a volunteer, like at a hospital, or library, or somewhere public, is a great way to get away from this. I would leave him, and let him find someone else. A good relationship needs respect, caring, honesty, and a willingness to talk about anything. Sounds like he has lost most of these things.
I think you would be better off without him, and start looking around for yourself. Good luck.

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You need to get a social life instead of sitting around waiting for hin. If you can't find work, do some volunteer work, that will get you out of the house and around other people.
How old are you?

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Ya I was thinking about volunteering, I just don't like this town everyone I was friends with here either stabbed me in the back or made up horrible rumors about its hard for me to trust people up here, I just want to move on with my life somewhere else and have a fresh start you know, I want to do it with him but I don't know if he's ready as I am, it is hard cause I love him so much, I don't know if he feels the same anymore. And I'm 21 years old.

Volunteer at a hospital or something. I think you need to stay away from him. Do something with your life that does not involve him. Have you ever thought of joining the Reserves or National guards. You can travel meet new people.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Volunteer at a hospital or something. I think you need to stay away from him. Do something with your life that does not involve him. Have you ever thought of joining the Reserves or National guards. You can travel meet new people.

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No I haven't thought about that I want to go to California and go into marine biology for my major. There I can go to school and meet more people, I wish he would open his eyes. Have you dated someone like this?

Going away and studying would be good for you. I did once, left him. It was the smartest thing I ever did.

Please I've been looking for an answer every where litarally cause its bugging me so bad. My boyfriend of 3 years works most of the day, sometimes doesn't come home till later like nine or ten (this just started recently) because he claims he's hanging out with an old friend that he wants to hang out with more before he leaves to Utah. By the way I've never met this person. He rarely wants to have sex anymore, sometimes he comes after a while than usual, sometimes he doesn't at all and quits saying he's tired. Idk what to think, either I'm being paranoid, cause we do live with his parents for now, and does work a lot but still I've noticed strange changes. Like barely ever touching or kissing. And I've been with a lot of guys in the past that have cheated on me, and apparently from everyone I've talked my boyfriend is not the type to cheat. Sorry its so long but thank you for taking the time to read. Any advice is greatly appreciated. :-)

I imagine living with ones parents would put a damper on sexual activity. Maybe he is being honest with his reasons and you are paranoid.