Hello, I've been having a tough time finding some good advise on this. I keep hearing lots of different point of views about no contact rules, and getting your ex back advise but so far I'm confused and I need some guidance.

My 1 year and half girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago. She said she needed her space, that she wanted her friends back and that she didn't want to depend on anyone anymore and that she wanted nothing to do with me. At first I tried to talk to her about fixing the relationship but she didn't want to at all. I was real depressed, and she kept on talking to me asking me if I was doing fine, telling me that she was worried about me, so she offered me her friendship.

We hung out a couple of times just as friends but I had my hopes up trying to get her back every time I saw her. So one day I found out that she was dating my best friend. I Went to her place to pick up some things I had and I saw them both together and she told me " u had to find out someday". I couldn't believe it, so I told her not to talk to me ever again that what she did was wrong, si I grabbed my things and left.

I deleted her from my phone, twitter, everything and stared doing the no contact rule. And I started to feel just fine. I coped better with the pain, met new people etc. Things were better until last week where I got a message from here saying. How are you? Are you still in town? Cause I came to this city just because of her. So at first I didn't know what to do, so I didn't answer. 4 days went by and I couldn't hold it anymore. I needed to know what she wanted and because I missed her so much. So I replied saying. Im good thank u, how about u? And yes I'm still in town... a couple hrs later she replied. That's good, me too. And that was it.. so I started feeling like because I told myelf I shouldn't have answered in the first place, and started to think maybe I can reply something else to star a conversaition but I ended up not replying. And she knows I read her message already.

The thing here is that I miss her and I fell like I lost the chance to get her back. I'm just real confused and I want to know what the best thing for me to do is if I want to get her back and for her to look for me again. I would really apreciate your help

Thanks!