Ask Me Help Desk - What's wrong with my girlfriend

Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 3 & a half yrs we live together I'm 27 yrs older then her but we first met we use to have sex all the time about 2 years ago she was having sex with other guys in college & contracted HPV after that sex really stopped between us and now 2 years
Later she is getting a chronic reoccurring yeast infections for the last 2 years we have been seen many doctors and specialist but the doctors keep telling her she has a yeast infection that never goes away for the last 2 years I have watched is transformed before my eyes. Anyway she claims that the sex is very painful and I don't get it anymore at all and besides all that she takes birth control pills everyday when we do attempt to have sex it only last for about 10 minutes she says its really painful but I can't take it any more . One weird thing is that she gives me oral sex a few times a week but claims intercouse is too painful. So I've been cheating on here every other week to get laid . But would love to know what's wrong with her . Please advise me

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You KNOW what's wrong with her: Sex is painful.

Cheating isn't helping your relationship--you could be bringing home diseases to her and if she thinks you're monogamous, she's not telling doctors to check her for those diseases.

Sex with a yeast infection IS painful. And if you're having sex while she has the infection and YOU are not also being treated, then YOU are the cause of the constant yeast infections--you're passing them back and forth during sex.

Honestly, I don't see anything healthy in your relationship at all. Get a divorce and you'll both probably be happier.

She gives you oral sex, and you still want to cheat, god she deserves better than you.

What disease are you going to bring her to her now.

She needs to perhaps see additional doctors, to find why sex is painful, there are many medical reasons.

You stop cheating, be happy she is taking care of your needs 3 times a week, many husbands would be happy for 3 times a month.

Hello again my friends well this is the second part of my story I really need some a good sound advice well as you know in part 1 of my story I was telling you about my girlfriend I totally am totally in love has a chronic yeast infection problem is chronic yeast infection has been going on persistently for 2 years and I can't have sex with her because she says it's so painful we have been to so many doctors specialist and still she said the sex is painful . I haven't gotten laid in months and I tried discussing it with are in a mature manner this morning but she refuses to give me some saying that it's too painful she won't even let me touch her in any type of sexual way it's like sleeping next to a wood blocks very cold & fridged I am at my wits end please someone help me what do I do now when I tried talking to her about it this morning she got very upset and told me to go cheat on her she doesn't care the bad thing about it is that I know she really doesn't care she is very evil and cold hearted like that at times anyway someone please give me some advice I don't want to lose this woman she means the world to me I care deeply for her. All I want is to be able to have sex with her at least once a week please help me I need advice thanks for being great listeners because I'm not being hurt over here at home...

Why on earth do you want to be with someone who is "evil and coldhearted"?

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One weird thing is that she gives me oral sex a few times a week but claims intercouse is too painful. So ive been cheating on here every other week to get laid . But would love to know what's wrong with her . Please advise me

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hello again my friends well this is the second part of my story I really need some a good sound advice well as you know in part 1 of my story I was telling you about my girlfriend I totally am totally in love has a chronic yeast infection problem is chronic yeast infection has been going on persistently for 2 years and I can't have sex with her because she says it's so painful we have been to so many doctors specialist and still she said the sex is painful . I haven't gotten laid in months and I tried discussing it with are in a mature manner this morning but she refuses to give me some saying that it's too painful she won't even let me touch her in any type of sexual way it's like sleeping next to a wood blocks very cold & fridged I am at my wits end please someone help me what do I do now when I tried talking to her about it this morning she got very upset and told me to go cheat on her she doesn't care the bad thing about it is that I know she really doesn't care she is very evil and cold hearted like that at times anyway someone please give me some advice I don't want to lose this woman she means the world to me I care deeply for her. All I want is to be able to have sex with her at least once a week please help me I need advice thanks for being great listeners because I'm not being hurt over here at home...

This will sound harsh. But hopefully you will stop and think.

She has a medical condition that makes sexual contact/intercourse painful. She gives you oral sex several times a week. In your first post, you tell us that you are already cheating then come back and try to say you haven't had intercourse or any type of sexual contact in months.

She isn't the 'very evil and cold-hearted' one in this relationship. She is in pain and trying to deal with it. You on the other hand are looking out for your own needs and probably giving her new infections as well as passing the yeast infection back and forth. When was the last time you had a check-up and std/sti screening?

If she is frigid in any way, it is probably due to your behavior. I wonder if she knows about your cheating and if her out burst this morning was a way of telling you that she knows.

Stop looking at yourself as a victim and at her as the evil woman denying you your due. She is either your partner who you love and cherish whether she can have intercourse or not or you let her go and find someone who is healthy to satisfy your needs.

Oh, and oral sex has nothing to do with vaginal sex so she is giving you what she can and you are dismissing it as not enough and like she isn't doing anything at all to try and meet your needs. Birth control pills are used for more than contraceptives. They can be used to treat other hormonally related issues.

Let's see - she is cold and frigid but you want intercourse instead of the oral sex she gives you.

She has a painful yeast infection but you are out having sex with other people and bringing who-knows-what home to her. You presumably know more about her yeast infection that her Doctors know - or at least you think you do.

You have "been cheating on here every other week to get laid . But would love to know whats wrong with her." You sound like a crass act. I think I know what's wrong with her. She's tired of you badgering her for sex and sex hurts and she has to sense you are cheating.

Do her a favor - move on.

I think we have the cheating aspect of this well covered as well as the, "You're the kind of man that give most men bad names you lying sack of horse biscuits." angle.

I am more curious about the Chronic Yeast infection she has. Who has she talked to and has the cause been diagnosed.

As an aside, nut up. If you're not happy about an aspect of a relationship and nothing will change then end it. Don't lie and cheat. That is going to damage you and more so your mate. That will damage them far more than "sorry wasn't getting enough sex." Be a man for Christ's sake.

I have to wonder if you would be having sex once a week if your penis hurt every time you had sex. How would you feel if it was too painful, but your partner expected you to suck it up and do it anyway?

If that's love, who needs hate?

You don't care about her, you only care about sex, and since you're getting that somewhere else, let her go, let her find a man that cares about her.

Have some compassion for her!! Good lord. She is in pain. She is giving you oral sex 3 times a week and you're not at all thankful? You ARE getting some!

"she won't even let me touch her in any type of sexual way it's like sleeping next to a wood blocks very cold & fridged"
It's like sleeping next to wood blocks!? What the heck. You're an a**hole.

Try to put yourself in her shoes and have some understanding for her. She deserves to have someone by her side, caring for her, trying to help her figure out what's wrong. Being PATIENT. And she is still pleasuring you several times a week. With oral sex, which is pretty damn awesome! Why are you complaining?

You aren't the man she needs in her life. I'm not wishing anything bad for you. But I hope she wises up and dumps you as soon as possible. You're being an a** , lying, cheating, no compassion or understanding, being selfish.. the list goes on. I hope for your sake you're just "young and stupid" and have a lot of growing up to do. But it'd be best if you could do that on your own without hurting someone in the process. Since sex is so important just leave her and sleep around till your hearts (penis's?) content. Leave her out of it!

I wish she would post because maybe we could help her. Sometimes women really do have constant infections. But I've had doctors throw antibiotics at me because they didn't know what else to do. Sometimes if there is traces of blood in the urine/vagina and you have pain, but the test is negative, they give you antibiotics anyway. It's possible there is more to her problem than a yeast infection.

There are a lot of herbal supplements that can wipe out infections or keep you balanced down there. Also, she could try a yeast free/ sugar free diet.