Ask Me Help Desk - What should I do?

0K so I'm a female and I'm kind of confused because I think that in kind of atracted to both females and males so there's this girl who is a really close friend and I'm having these weird feelings towards her and she's asked me what I feel for her but I've denied what I feel because I'm scared what her reaction will be I should also mention that she is 21 and she had a boyfriend who treats her like she's not worth anything and I cussed him out when he called her a b*t*! I need advice on what I should do

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Originally Posted by lilboricualuverinluv

0K so im a female and im kinda confused because i think that in kinda atracted to both females and males so theres this girl who is a really close friend and im having these wierd feelings towards her and shes asked me what i feel for her but ive denied what i feel because im scared what her reaction will be i should also mention that she is 21 and she had a bf who treats her like shes not worth anything and i cussed him out when he called her a b*t*! i need advice on what i should do

You are attracted to both male and female? My opinion is you shouldn't be afraid on telling it to her. Or I think you might just a bit confused right now. Tell it to her then tell me what you feel afterwards. Maybe that girl can help you too

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Originally Posted by JP8

you are attracted to both male and female? my opinion is you shouldnt be afraid on telling it to her. or i think you might just a bit confused right now. tell it to her then tell me what you feel afterwards. maybe that girl can help you too

That might be a good idea but i don't know how she will take it after all we've been through we do everything together and i don't want to ruin our frindship over the way i feel so message me private with more advise!

You asked me to answer, well you did not say your age for one thing, if you are 12 it is a lot different than if you are 17 or 18.

I am told and have read that women often have closer emotion bonds between thierself than men do, so I don't have that reference.

Often though I have found though life, I have confused close friendship and companionship. And the caring of a person as a friend for a more sexual feelling. Esp when one or both people are going though a tough time.

The problem with telling a good friend how you feel, is that you risk losing that friendship. In several ways, first if she has no bi feelings, she may be revolted by it and not be friends, and she may be but not have those feelings for you. And then lastly if she is and she likes you, the relationship may not work out.

So those are all sorts of problems that it can cause.

As a pastor of course, since you asked me, I can not in good conscience ever recommend a homosexual life style, since it goes contrary to normal accepted morals and christian teachings ( ** before you jump, they messaged me and asked me for an opinion so I am giving it)

I truly believe that often because of the closer emotional feelings girls can confuse this closeness with sexual feelings, since emotions are a bigger part of sex for women than for men.