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I've always had a strong attraction to women. I've had a few sexual partners all women. I never once thought I was gay at all. However recently I've been telling myself I'm not gay. I have no desire what so ever to do anything with a man. I think it's gross, no offense to anyone. But I thoroughly enjoy a woman. I never had any doubts about this until recently. I just really need some advice is this just anxiety or am I gay?
Have you accidentally fallen on some guys ? Found yourself the willing participant in a sexual situation where you were having sex with a guy?
It isn't all that I realize, but you're getting nervous, anxious even, over nothing. Sexuality is a spectrum. The fact that you like women and not men means you're probably still hetrosexual.
Why are you telling yourself that you're not gay?
I always felt very comfortable around my friends. Would laugh and make jokes about being gay. I've never accudently fallen on a guy. I started a job where there were several gay guys. And I noticed that I was very uncomfortable. I don't really know why I'm telling myself that. It's just I can't tell if my feelings about girl are sincere or not. I've always been a guys guys guy. I don't honestly know what happened. I used to feel very comfortable about being straight. But I've noticed I've always spent more time with guys. I just need to get past this because I've been talking to this girl and I think I'm in love with her. Ie been in love with a girl before. However recently my attraction to women has decreased. I just am at my wits end. I always had a irrational fear of being gay. But I knew I wasn't. I'm honestly losing itQuote:
Originally Posted by CravenMorhead
Men spend time with me, go out drinking, playing video games and so on.
You are gay if you desire to have sex with a man.( and you are a man)
If you can't tell if your feelings for the girl are sincere or not, then they are not. By definition, sincerity requires that you know they are sincere. There's no need to rush on the question of being gay or not, but perhaps you should back off on the relationship for now, or at least tell her that you aren't going to commit.
Well that's like a girl I know I've had a crush on for At least four years texted me the other day and nothing. I definitely have had no sexual urge to do anything with a man. When those intrusive thoughts come in it makes me sick to my stomach. I also feel awkward to make eye contact with any man. I've always been kind of shy around girls but once I got to know them I opened up and always had a good time. I think maybe I'm just looking for proof that I am even though I'm not. It's very complicated, it could have just been high levels of stress from working third shift. I've always been a kind of nervous person maybe my mind just wanted an outlet to trouble me with.
Speaking as a gay guy - When you are around gay guys is gay all you see? It sounds like it is. Being gay is a small portion of who we are. Honestly we don't go up to you and see just a straight person. Try to afford us the same respect.
And honestly it just sounds like anxiety or just thoughts going through your head to me.
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