I have never had an orgasm while having sex its been seven years! Is there something wrong with me or my boyfriend? We've tried different things to help me but nothing seems to work. What's the problem

Im also like you, I also have been sexual with my fiancé for 2yrs. I've not once had an orgasm in my vagina. I'm wondering am I ill too, lol. However, to make our experience better, what we do is he goes down on me then I go that way. Then we continue to have sex, that at least let's you go rather then getting nothing out of it. It's important that you both enjoy it and do it for the right reasons. Good luck to you.

Have either of you managed to orgasm alone?

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Originally Posted by EnglishRose

Have either of you managed to orgasm alone?

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I think this is crucial. You need to know what makes you tick. What works for you and what doesn't.

Then, don't just tell your partner - show him. It drives me wild when my girlfriend demonstrates explicitly what she wants from me. If your partner is anything like me, he'll want to work on this just as much as you do - as he will get off on getting you off.

That works in some cases, but not all. For instance my fiancé would rather he touch me then I me to myself. I'm also uncomfortable with doing that. So it depend's on the couple really.

Try woman on top...it feels great!!! His pelvis bone hits your just right...GOOD LUCK!

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Originally Posted by malcala

I have never had an orgasim while having sex its been seven years! is there something wrong with me or my boyfriend? we've tried diffrent things to help me but nothing seems to work. whats the problem

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Try to masturbate with full concentration... use the same concentration and feeling while sex
Use side by side or spoon position with full body contact.. I think it will work

I really think that to have an orgasm you must know exactly what your body likes and the only way to find that out is to experiment. If you are not comfortable doing this in front of your partner, do it while you are alone. Men do this from an early age but women seem to think this is in some way wrong. It is not, it is perfectly normal. If you don't know what does it for you, how can you expect him to?

Oral sex is your answer ;)

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Originally Posted by Raynefreak

That works in some cases, but not all. For instance my fiance would rather he touch me then i me to myself. I'm also uncomfortable with doing that. So it depend's on the couple really.

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I was exactly like this. I had never orgasmed until my first time last summer and that wasn't during sex, but when he used his hands.

(I also haven't ever orgasmed from oral).

However after coming home (I was in England at the time) I took more interest in learning how my body works and have even brought myself to orgasm on many occasions.

All I can suggest to you is, if you're marrying this guy you should be comfortable with him - and that is key. Try touching yourself when alone at first to get a feel for what you like, then maybe you can work up the nerve to show him.

It's amazing how much guys seem to like that... you'll feel quite powerful and will be getting off at the same time. ;o

Just because HE is not okay with it doesn't mean you SHOULDN'T do it. You can get a room to yourself, lock the door, and go at it. If you know what works for you, then you can point your partner in the right direction.

Geared toward teens but having read a bit, doing research to start with --but am a guy so was great learning;) you might want to check the masturbation page on this site. Those girls are really teaching each other there.
-- Savage
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I can tell you from experience - if you research the topic and put to practice what you read, your experience will be greatly improved!