Ask Me Help Desk - I'm so nervous I'm wrecked I don't know who the dad is??

I'm so nervous I'm wrecked I don't know who the dad is??

My lmp was round December 26 it lasted for 5 days I took first test on 12th of jan it was negative took the other on the 20th it was positive, sum it up I'm pregnant I had sex with my ex earlier in the months of December then jan 5 and 18 of this year but he pulled out. My current boyfriend we have sex a lot he never pull out he also been taking folic acid and so have I!! I want this baby to be his!! Im trying so hard to figure out My ovulation days and the day I conceived before I end up having a nervous break down please help me

Get ready for the nervous breakdown because the fact is, there is absolutely no way to be sure until the baby is born and you have a DNA test done to identify the father. This is what happens when you do things like this, it is just impossible to tell as the times are too close together.

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Originally Posted by odinn7

Get ready for wthe nervous breakdown because the fact is, there is absolutely no way to be sure until the baby is born and you have a DNA test done to identify the father. This is what happens when you do things like this, it is just impossible to tell as the times are too close together.

wow that was harsh people do make mistakes you know

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Originally Posted by tiffany43

wow that was harsh people do make mistakes ya know

Hey it's tough love and maybe the time to worry about this is before she got into bed with the ex.

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Originally Posted by tiffany43

wow that was harsh people do make mistakes ya know

that was rude for someone to say to my friend glad it wasn't me

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Originally Posted by tiffany43

wow that was harsh people do make mistakes ya know

Nice that you think it was harsh. I was simply telling the truth. I saw nothing harsh about it... Blunt maybe. Direct maybe. Harsh? No, I wasn't trying to be harsh.

It won't my problem to worry about nothing cause its not me I was just trying to get her some feedback that's all omg

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Originally Posted by tiffany43

It won't my problem to worry bout nothin cause its not me i was just trying to get her some feedback that's all omg

OK then I am glad and happy that it isn't u in that situation. Your question did say it was you but omg I guess not.

Look I'm just glad it wasn't me like I said... its fine! And olivia whatever your name is... I'm not worried about nothing I'm concerned not worried OK

Your title to this question says your nervous and wrecked... but I'm glad your OK. This is just the first step. Just take things easy and you will be OK. Hope for the best. When the baby is born, have a paternity test done and maybe it will work out as you hope.

Good luck.

There is no way to know, conception dates even with ultrasound will only be good plus or minus about 2 weeks. The first pregnancy test was too early most likely, you can be several weeks pregnant and still showing negative.

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Originally Posted by tiffany43

Look I'm just glad it wasn't me like I said... its fine! And olivia whatever your name is... I'm not worried about nothing I'm concerned not worried OK

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Im trying so hard to figure out My ovulation days and the day I conceived before I end up having a nervous break down please help me

So you typed this for your friend? I'm a pretty good writer, and no matter what, if I was writing for a friend, I wouldn't use "I", nor would I be having a nervous breakdown about a friends situation. I'd write "My friend is pregnant. My friend doesn't know who the daddy is. My friend is about to have a nervous breakdown". See what I mean?

If your friend is so worried about this, why isn't she asking? Why are you? Why did you post as if it was you?

Bottom line, the only way to determine paternity is a DNA test after the baby is born. If your "friend" wanted this baby to be her boyfriends, she shouldn't have slept with her ex. If you only have one partner, there's no question about paternity. That's not judgement, that's fact.

Good luck to you and your "friend".

She got upset when she thought we were being harsh and judging her so she then introduced the idea of this all being her friend. Like as if we've never seen that tactic before, you know?

And it was Olivia that was the meanest... just for the record. ;)

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Originally Posted by odinn7

She got upset when she thought we were being harsh and judging her so she then introduced the idea of this all being her friend. Like as if we've never seen that tactic before, you know?

And it was Olivia that was the meanest....just for the record. ;)

Olivia, how dare you? LOL! That just makes me giggle. I think that will be his new nickname, from here on out he will be known as Olivia. :)

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Originally Posted by tiffany43

wow that was harsh people do make mistakes ya know

That was no mistake... both parties did it because they wanted to do it... sorry... but rape wasn't involved.

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Originally Posted by smoothy

That was no mistake...both parties did it because they wanted to do it....sorry....but rape wasn't involved.

Bingo. I love it when people say "it was a mistake" or "it was an accident". The only mistake is that you now regret it because it may affect you. Before and during the act, you didn't care. It's only now that you're pregnant that it's an issue.

I get that this happens, but every time I read a post like this I have to ask, why do you care who the father is? Obviously you don't care enough about either one of them to be in a relationship. The ex is the ex because you don't want him, and you're cheating on the boyfriend because you don't love him enough to be faithful, so what does paternity matter? It's unlikely you'll stay with either of these guys, regardless of who the daddy is. So have the baby, get a DNA test, get child support from the father, and find someone you can be faithful to.

I have to say, I've been married for 17 years, been with my husband for 23 years , 24 next month (we dated for 5 years before we married) and I've never made a mistake like the one your "friend" made, and trust me, I could have had I not loved my husband enough to be faithful. It's not that hard to be faithful when you actually care about someone.

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Originally Posted by Alty

Olivia, how dare you? LOL! That just makes me giggle. I think that will be his new nickname, from here on out he will be known as Olivia. :)

Excuse me. I might be gay but I don't wear a dress. Not that I wouldn't look good in drag.

KIDDING of course. I am quite masculine. Just don't call me Ollie!

LOL, wore a dress last year at a fund raiser, ( the things we do for charity)
I doubt a drunk sailor would make a pass at me.
And the site of me in a dress may just make a gay person go "straight"

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

LOL, wore a dress last year at a fund raiser, ( the things we do for charity)
I doubt a drunk sailor would make a pass at me.
And the site of me in a dress may just make a gay person go "straight"

HAHA. Now those were some funny lines.

I think Adam would divorce me if I wore one.