My boyfriend/ex broke up with me last month and asked me out again. He told my friend the reason that we broke up is that he really liked this girl named Michelle in his complex. They went out but he said that he thought of me every time they went out. I still have mixed feelings even if I did give him a second chance. Hmmm I still don't know because he was a jerk when I needed someone =(. Any advice?

I'd say no. He dumped you when he thought he found something better, only to come back when he realized that the something better, wasn't better. How long until he once again finds someone he thinks is better than you?

You're his safety net, someone he goes to until something better comes along, then you're disposable. Why not find someone that believes that you are the something better?

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Originally Posted by Alty

I'd say no. He dumped you when he thought he found something better, only to come back when he realized that the something better, wasn't better. How long until he once again finds someone he thinks is better than you?

You're his safety net, someone he goes to until something better comes along, then you're disposable. Why not find someone that believes that you are the something better?

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Well I've decided that if we do break up again and he finds someone "better" and he wants me back, I'll just say no. That's what my first answer was but I thought he needed a second chance even if he didn't deserve it.

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Originally Posted by Lil-demon

Well I've decided that if we do break up again and he finds someone "better" and he wants me back, I'll just say no. That's what my first answer was but I thought he needed a second chance even if he didn't deserve it.

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That's up to you. If you want to give him a second chance to break up with you when he finds someone better, that's your choice. In which case I have to ask, why did you even want our opinion? It seems you made up your mind already.

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Originally Posted by Alty

That's up to you. If you want to give him a second chance to break up with you when he finds someone better, that's your choice. In which case I have to ask, why did you even want our opinion? It seems you made up your mind already.

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Well I'm still confused and I have mixed feelings about him, he apologized for how he acted even though he meant something else. He still says that he loves me but I'm not sure if he Really means it. My friend says that he does and he says that he does, but I still don't know. :(

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Well I'm still confused and I have mixed feelings about him, he apologized for how he acted even though he meant something else. He still says that he loves me but I'm not sure if he REALY means it. My friend says that he does and he says that he does, but I still don't know. :(

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And you were hoping we'd know? Only he knows. You don't know, your friend doesn't know, and we definitely don't know. His feelings are his and his alone, so only he can know how he feels about you.

I can only give you my opinion, which I did. I can't tell you how he really feels, or if he's lying to you, or if he'll break up with you again. I only know that I wouldn't give him another chance. But I'm not you. This is completely up to you, and it's up to you whether you believe him or not. We really can't help you with that.

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Originally Posted by Alty

And you were hoping we'd know? Only he knows. You don't know, your friend doesn't know, and we definitely don't know. His feelings are his and his alone, so only he can know how he feels about you.

I can only give you my opinion, which I did. I can't tell you how he really feels, or if he's lying to you, or if he'll break up with you again. I only know that I wouldn't give him another chance. But I'm not you. This is completely up to you, and it's up to you whether you believe him or not. We really can't help you with that.

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Promise means everything, sorry means nothing...

He's not worth a second chance. He broke up with you but then it didn't work out so he's crawling back.

You do realize he will do this again, right? You want to keep going through this?

Sounds like the only reason he's going back to you is because Michelle didn't work out and now you're his replacement. It's obvious he's just using you and unless you want to be treated like a doormat, I suggest you give him a firm "no" if he wants a second chance with you. He blew the first chance he had with you and a person like him has to realize that there are consequences for bad behaviour.

Move on. Next he will like this girl from the gas station named Marge and dump you. Then he will come back to you when it doesn't work out. Then he will meet a woman named Maude at the vegetable stand at the grocery shop.

You don't really want to be his fall back girlfriend really do you?