What is going on with this man?
Hi,
Im so confused and don't know what to do now. My situation is:
I've been with my boyfriend for more than a year (we're both 27). But 4 months ago, he decided to study abroad. We planned on getting married when he's back (he'll be back in Dec). So over the long-distance relationship, we argued several times out of jealousy (both him and I). And it got the point where he couldn't stand it and he broke up with me a month ago. I was very upset. He said "i dont wanna be in such a relationship lijke this anymore, but we can still be friends." I said OK, and went no contact. But one of our mutual friend always told me that he always asked that guy if I'm OK.
3 weeks later, he texted me saying that he still loves and misses me and we should be back together, I said "well, there are plenty of girls there, why dont you just date someone? you told me before that life there is very fun and you have no time thinking about me." He said "no, i dont like anyone else, i dont date anyone else, i just hang out with friends and realize that i still love you". Then 4 days later, he said "im confused, i dont know what i want, and i dont know if i really love you or not, so lets be friends. Being apart changes everything. Life here with my roomies are very fun, and i love being single." I was very upset when I heard him say so. But I said "i dont want an immature man, i can't suffer any more changes, i need a mature love and committment." He said "i'm sure about my love for you".
LATER ON THAT SAME DAY, he phoned me and said he's been thinking the whole night and he loves me, we need to get back together". We still chat, talk, almost everyday but he's super busy with his thesis and assingments (he's studying MA). I still sense something wrong. Im too tired of the long distance relationship. So a week later, i was like "it seems like we're drifting apart, you're not so close to me at all emotionally". He said "I told you before that I don't even know what I want at the moment. I still think that I love you but our whole situation changes, and I have so many different thoughts now".
I said "enough! You don't act like a man at all, and I can't put up with it anymore."
he said "give me time, just let me finish these assignments and I'll change. I'm trying so hard to keep us together. I know its not fair for you, I don't want to make you sad. Just be patient, I'll change. I'll make it up to you."
I was like "lets just stop contacting one another until you're done your work and figure things out in your mind."
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My question is: what the hell is going on with this man? Now I just cut off all contact with him. But I don't understand what is going on. Why doesn't he just simply disappear and date someone else and forget about me? Its so easy being abroad like this.