When do you know you are completely over someone?

I only dated the guy for maybe 2 months. We were on and off but there was so much sexual chemistry. I cheated on my boyfriend for him and then broke up with my boyfriend for this guy then to toss him aside and go back with my ex. I know I was not in a good state of mind then but when do you truly know you are over someone? It has been over a year. I find myself sometimes creeping on people associated with him but not him ever. I know not to do that to myself. I knew this guy and I weren't meant to be ever. We had nothing in common.

Do the feeling ever go away?

You seem to have other issues besides being over him, and jumping back ad forth between guys, and a lot of bad behavior means you have some unresolved issues within yourself.

I don't think it about being over this fellow, but getting over your own confusion. What's this really about? Not happy with the guy you are with?

Maybe I put too much detail into by initial question. What I'm trying to ask is that how do you know you are completely over someone? I have moved on but sometimes I still have dreams about him and sometimes I talk about him to my friends. I love my boyfriend now. He is my world but why can't I forget about the past? I realize that I made a lot of mistakes and never should have been involved with this guy. It is like he is haunting me but I know I am the problem. It has gotten better with time. It use to be everyday that I use to think about him. Thanks for helping! I appreciate it!

You are not supposed to forget the past entirely, but keep it in perspective, it's a past memory, and that's it. Not something to worry about. I remember all my exes and its been DECADES since I have seen them.

If the relationship was purely sexual, and it was the best wild sex you ever had, you may not ever completely forget him. But you have to place it where it belongs, in the fun past experience, like going to Disneyland perhaps, something you remember from time to time,

You're just craving what you want but cannot have at the moment. But just because a great deal of time has passed and you miss that part of your life, it doesn't mean you should seek it. You are probably wanting it for the wrong reasons because as you stated, "you have nothing in common" with this guy. So ask yourself the question, what is it that I am truly missing? Is it the person or is it just the sex? If sex is the only reason you're gravitating towards him and you're afraid you may never find that again with someone else, then you are allowing it to control your life. Also ask yourself "why am I craving this? What is it about my life that makes me feel so incomplete and unsure?" Bottom line is find out who YOU are, and you won't find yourself wanting men for the wrong reasons. I wish you all the best!

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

If the relationship was purely sexual, and it was the best wild sex you ever had, you may not ever completely forget him. but you have to place it where it belongs, in the fun past experience, like going to Disneyland perhaps, something you remember from time to time,

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"If the relationship was purely sexual, and it was the best wild sex you ever had, you may not ever completely forget him. "

AMEN to that!!