I've been with this guy for 16 months. Of course things were OK in the beginning. We went out one night bowling had a great time until we got back to his place. He said I was looking at another guy and I should go be with him. I told him I'm not dealing with his insecurities and he dropped it. Months later we moved in together. He saw my Facebook page one night and lost it because of my guys friends. I left our house because I didn't want to fight in front of my son (not his kid) and went to a friends. Hours later he was still mad, he found me at my friends and continued to fight with me even though it was the middle of the night. I decided to go back home so I wasn't embarrassed or disrespecting my friends home. He followed me and when we arrived home he was even more mad. Out in the street getting in my face yelling at me I tried to get away. I told him to leave me alone he threw a beer can at me hitting me in the face. I pushed him told him to leave me alone then he punched me in my face. I punched him back in the face and took off running. He caught me and slammed my head into a brick wall knocking me out. When I came to he was touching me asking if I was OK, I yelled at him to stop touching me which made him mad again and he started spitting on me. I got up and ran again he didn't come after me just yelled curse words at me while I ran. I came home about an hour later he was sleeping. I took a shower and when I got out he was awake crying and claiming he's going to kill himself because he hurt me. He has spit on me 2 other times since this and tells me mean things like I'm a bad mom, go screw the neighbors, I'm no prize I better shape up etc... he has kept his jands to himself until recently. We were fighting he told me that I was trash. I repeated what he said I called him trash and he lost it. He came after me and head butted my nose yelling at me that I was a bully. I said he was the bully and he hit my nose again knocking me out. When I came to he was spitting on me telling me to shape up or someone is going to kill me for being a bully and I deserved to be hit. He finally left after I locked myself in my room . The next day was a tearful apology from him and how bad he feels and that's not him. He has taken all my money last week now I can't pay my bills and he's not answering his phone or my texts.

Well, I would have to say, from your vivid description, that you are definitely in an abusive dangerousrelationship which you should get out of, like yesterday. Count your lucky stars that you can't find him, and he is not answering his phone or your texts. My question is, why would you even bother trying to reach him, of course, if only to get your money back, which I don't think is a likelihood.

Get out while the going is good ! He could have killed you a couple of times.

You read about abuse like this, and hear about on TV with movie personalities. You have to leave this person, get away as soon as you can. He may explode later, and actually might kill you, in rage.
This is not someone who you can talk with... move out, please.