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  • Jan 11, 2013, 05:07 AM
    jkj
    Please kindly give a solution for having no pleasure during sex?
    l'm 23 year old. I never enjoyed having sex with my boy friend. I lost virginity with him. Its been 1 year but still I don't feel anything inside my vagina. I'm really disappointed and hopeless.
  • Jan 11, 2013, 11:09 AM
    Vannahrosee
    A lot of women have this problem, you are not alone. Especially since he is your first you probably do not have a lot experience and may not know what even feels good for yourself. Only you can figure out what turns you on. It isn't something he will magically be able to do.

    I've had problems with orgasms myself and I've found from experience that practice makes perfect and a lot of that practice should involve you pleasuring yourself. Use your fingers first, find the areas that feel best for you and them gently talk to your boyfriend about how he can give you pleasure in the way that you have discovered. Let him watch you or just do it in private. It will pay off to know yourself well.
  • Jan 11, 2013, 11:30 AM
    joypulv
    Not many women do their feeling inside their vagina. It takes some very personal searching of your thoughts and feelings to 'discover' in yourself what might turn you on. Cuddling with your clothes on while watching TV for an hour? Something more exotic, a kiss on the back of your neck from a stranger while you are in a book store? A famous singer or actor? Being chased laughing through a field of flowers, or along a beach? Intense, short sex after strenuous exercise or something competitive with a man? Something kinky? Dressing up as a teenager or French maid? HE dressing up as something? Think about what you think about when you think about sex.
  • Jan 11, 2013, 01:39 PM
    jazzas
    Hi Your B/F needs to get you well wet before he tries to enter you? Make him go down and eat you, or play with you for 20 minutes then have sex if he nearly comes change position , also if you really want a orgasam you get on top facing away from him ,playing with your while he is pushing up , works every time for us GLx
  • Jan 11, 2013, 02:00 PM
    joypulv
    OK, you have 3 types of suggestions so far:
    Masturbating
    Fantasy
    More variety of sex
    Does anything so far sound right to you?
  • Jan 11, 2013, 03:37 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jazzas View Post
    Hi Your B/F needs to get you well wet before he trys to enter you? make him go down and eat you, or play with you for 20 mins then have sex if he nearly comes change position , also if you really want a orgasam you get on top facing away from him ,playing with your while he is pushing up , works every time for us GLx

    Works every time for "us GLx"? I'm assuming GLx is gals? No. It doesn't work every time for every girl.

    The majority of women don't orgasm during penetration, no matter what position they're in. Those are the facts. The female body is built in such a way that penetration alone usually does not elicit an orgasm.

    To the OP (original poster) do you masturbate? Can you bring yourself to orgasm?

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