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  • Jan 11, 2013, 01:35 AM
    Abbeygee21
    My boyfriend is ignoring me and I have no idea why
    I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we have had our ups and downs and he is the type of person to ignore me and the situation when we have had an argument that's just how he is and we have learnt how to speak to each other now without arguing.. You also need to no that he works away he's away for two weeks at a time and then comes home for a little while then goes back.. Recently he has been off for 3 weeks over Christmas and we got on so well we were fab a few times we had a few 'talks' but nothing major anyway he went back to work on Monday and everything was great I mean its hard with him working away but I thought it was going to be fine then on Tuesday he just stopped texting me nothing not even a morning like he always does nothing sept he keeps going online on Facebook?? He's ignored me before bit I've always known why and this time I'm so worried he's doing it because he doesn't love me anymore or has found someone new or just doesn't want to be with me.. I trust him 100 percent not to cheat on me but I just don't understand what I have dune to make him ignore me I feel invisable to him and forgotten about
  • Jan 11, 2013, 01:55 AM
    joypulv
    Forgive my 'older generation' attitude towards texting and constant contact, but I just don't see that missing contact sometimes proves that someone doesn't love you. I would go crazy if I had to text someone every day, never mind every hour the way so many people do. You know the saying, get a life, and that's what keeps a relationship lasting for years or even forever. You NEED a life outside of him mainly for your own sense of who you are without depending on someone (because none of us has any guarantees that someone will stay with us), but also for the very practical reason that having stuff to talk about when you see each other makes for more interest and excitement.
    Let him go on Facebook for different contacts! You should too. You say you trust him, so prove it. Control your fears and expand your life, friends, interests, hobbies, and events.
  • Jan 11, 2013, 03:54 AM
    Abbeygee21
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    Forgive my 'older generation' attitude towards texting and constant contact, but I just don't see that missing contact sometimes proves that someone doesn't love you. I would go crazy if I had to text someone every day, never mind every hour the way so many people do. You know the saying, get a life, and that's what keeps a relationship lasting for years or even forever. You NEED a life outside of him mainly for your own sense of who you are without depending on someone (because none of us has any guarantees that someone will stay with us), but also for the very practical reason that having stuff to talk about when you see each other makes for more interest and excitement.
    Let him go on Facebook for different contacts! You should too. You say you trust him, so prove it. Control your fears and expand your life, friends, interests, hobbies, and events.
    I do have a life I have a job and go out with my friends often I also have a child I don't need him to continuously talk to me he isn't like that any way. But when he works away every week not seeing and speaking to him is very difficult and when I have text him asking why he is ignoring me and he still doesn't answer gives me reason to worry espepsily when we were happy when he left and I haven't dune anything to make him angry! It's very hard not being with him and then not speaking to him he has dune this to me before by ignoring me for 2 weeks because he's angry but this time is different. If he was happy with me he would replay and want to speak to me every now and then not ignore me
  • Jan 11, 2013, 04:20 AM
    joypulv
    OK, we aren't there, and don't know exactly what is going on. Even so, we don't know what kind of job he has, and how often he can't get to his phone (and many employers are requiring now that they be turned off or turned in for the day). If I were him, and you texted me asking 'why are you ignoring me' (which you said here), I would sigh and feel annoyed. How's he supposed to be glad to see you when he sees you? Where's the fun and excitement in a nagging relationship? Keep some mystery alive. I don't know if you have ever had a relationship past 2 years before, but it's very important to switch gears right around this stage, or you are doomed.
  • Jan 11, 2013, 04:28 AM
    Abbeygee21
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    OK, we aren't there, and don't know exactly what is going on. Even so, we don't know what kind of job he has, and how often he can't get to his phone (and many employers are requiring now that they be turned off or turned in for the day). If I were him, and you texted me asking 'why are you ignoring me' (which you said here), I would sigh and feel annoyed. How's he supposed to be glad to see you when he sees you? Where's the fun and excitement in a nagging relationship? Keep some mystery alive. I don't know if you have ever had a relationship past 2 years before, but it's very important to switch gears right around this stage, or you are doomed.
    He fixes TV masts and so now I have sounded naggy then how do I turn it around I get that I should stop texting him and wait for him to txt me maybe but is that all I can do? I want him to think of me as fun and exciting I don't want him to think of me as a nag which he probs does I want to know now how to turn this around because I don't want to loose him

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