I am 22 now. I was around six when it happened.
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I am 22 now. I was around six when it happened.
No, sadly you aren't :( Being a virgin means you never had sex before... I'm sorry
If you have never had vaginal sex your hymen could still be tact, technically if so, you are still a virgin. There is not a Hymen in your rectum.
I honestly wouldn't worry about the technicalities, you have never had sex willingly. To me the idea of a virgin is just as much a mental thing. Are you apprehensive yet curious about sex? If the answer is yes, your still a virgin in my book, I would just focus on that. :P
More really want to respond to a comment by Talaniman. According to the definition of rape anal rape at the age of six is considered sex. It is bright, happy, or shiny, but there is a lot in this world that isn't. Rape is Assault, terrible, and scaring for anyone to go through. I won't front that and I do hope that the man who did this to the OP had his genitals removed, braised in white wine and... well you can continue that train of thought to its logical end.
The definition of a virgin is muddy and unclear. There is one I HEARD a while back that a virgin is "Someone who hasn't been penetrated by a penis." So most men would admit that they're life long virgins. There are ones that go towards sexual intercourse. How does that work with a fleshlight or a dildo? Because a woman could get rid of her hymen with a dildo and never actually have sexual intercourse with a man. Virgin and no hymen.
Rectally? Well it is all about what you want to admit, but it kind of follows the same rules.
In this case it is totally up to what the original poster wants to believe or saw. By the rule of the dictionary, no. She's not a virgin. By the rule of what she wants to say: Sure. Why not.
I didn't mean to ramble so.
I will go by the old definition of virgin; as in women who want to remain 'virgins' until they marry, and hold off having any relations at all with their intended.
Tell the cops ,
Given all the interpretations throughout the world and throughout history or the word 'virgin' (and also the term 'having sex'), I would say that if it helps you to be a virgin, then you are one. I would.
I'm very sorry this happened to you, especially when you were so young, and if you want to talk about how it is affecting your ability to have close relationships, we are here.
Is this the best advice you can offer?Quote:
Originally Posted by jazzas
You are not a virgin because you are raped.But mentaly you are.
OP was rectally raped; not vaginally.Quote:
Originally Posted by Alex333
Why does it matter about how we define a word, it does not change what happened, nor does it change the sexual acts that occurred.
Why are you , the poster concerned, this is just about you, and if you are, or if you are not, is not really an issue that should be a concern.
"Is this the best advice you can offer?"
Apparently it is - and keep in mind it comes from an Attorney.
Claims to be one.Quote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
I'm not convinced, from all his other answers, and also from poor grammar like 'she could have eaten something bad.'
UK and an Attorney, not a barrister or solicitor?
Shades of - what was her name? The woman who killed her husband off on line?
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