I have been married for 1 year and 2 months. We have a beautiful daughter of 7 months. My husband does not touch me or hold me or kiss me. We don't talk and we are not intermate. He says its because of my ways that we are not intermate. He has kids and so do I. I find myself constantly pushing my kids away because of him. He told me that he wants a divorce due to the fact the I do not accept his kids. They are always cUsing problems between my husband and I. They are 12 ,17 & 20 my kids are 9 and 10. He does not want to hear anything about them. They never call or come around. They never wish us for special occasions like xmas and his birthday. He is constantly calling after them and running after them. They only call him if they need a ride or money. My kids respect him and treat him like a dad should be treated. They have called him daddy since day 1 they have never called him anything else other than daddy. I don't want our marriage to end because he is blind to his kids and the way they minipulate him

Those are his kids and coming between his kids and him can only hurt your relationship. These are things you two should have discussed before you got married. Marriage is difficult enough. Adding the component of additional kids makes it more difficult. If you two cannot communicate to fix this issue, then the marriage is definitely doomed. Regardless of what happens, you should never push your kids away for any reason. That will only come back to bite you badly.

From your previous post - July 2012; I wager HE wants a Divorce due to your insane jealousy! Neither he nor any man would care to be intimate with a jealous, immature, interrogating lunatic; following them around, period!

He says; “it's because of your ways that he is not intimate!” Therefore it is you who is blind when you have done nothing about fixing your insecurities.

Do you honestly think he woke up one morning; “…being proud to marry a woman like you, who has her priorities straight and puts, her family first…” as a reason to divorce… NO!

Perhaps his children do cause trouble etc; but you'll never get him or a man to listen to you with a track record of interrogating jealousy. Men switch off emotionally and when that happens they won't hear a thing your saying! :(

It would be best not to say or do anything that would drive him further away at this point. He evidently he has had enough of your ways. It's time to be still and behave like a woman he can be proud of.

Is it over? What can you do to save it? In your other post you were given some good advice about getting counseling because of your extreme jealousy issues.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marria...nd-681261.html

Have you done that? Do you still treat him like a prisoner? Nobody wants to deal with that. Actually, it surprises me that he is still with you if you are still acting this way.

You are back here with a totally different story from last summer.
Have you changed your jealous ways or sought counseling?
Did you go to school like you said you were about to?

This did not happen all of a sudden and would have still be a problem on the day you married, so why did you get married to start with.

Next why do your kids call him DAD, that seems somewhat silly for kids that old, to a man who rejects them ?