I have a son who is 21 and my husband don't want him in the house.I have to seek around to let him in the house.I have a problem saying no I move in fear all the time need help.

Can you better describe what you need help with?

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

Can you better describe what you need help with?

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How do I put my son out and not let him back in its so hard because I love my husband and son.

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Originally Posted by jw1234

How do I put my son out and not let him back in its soo hard because I love my husband and son.

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May I ask why your husband wants your son out? Is your husband your son's real father?

We need more information in order to be able to give you advice. Why does your husband not want your son in the home? Is your son the biological child of your husband? Does your son pay rent to live there? Have you talked to your husband about how you feel about this?

Yes he is his real father. They a lot of unforgiveness of yhings that happen in the past. I feel caught in the medium.

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Originally Posted by jw1234

Yes he is his real father. They a lot of unforgiveness of yhings that happen in the past. I feel caught in the medium.

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Is there family counseling available where you live? It's not okay for them to put you in the middle. They need to sit together and rectify things, and that may mean a counselor.

One of course is that you don't have to "put son out" if you want son in the home, you can just tell husband no.

Since you have skirted around the issue, we have no idea what the problem really is

If you agree with your husband and want your son out, then you tell him to leave. Give him 30 days written notice to vacate and warn him if he doesn't find somewhere else, then you will obtain an eviction order.

You need to stand your ground with him. Right now, he knows he can manipulate you and is playing that card. If you really love him, you will stop enabling him and force him to stand on his own two feet.