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  • Dec 31, 2012, 07:37 PM
    racing
    Is there hope for me?
    >edited for clarity with caps and punctuation and paragraphs<

    This my first post, but here we go. I had been seeing this girl for 6 or 7 months. Everything was great. We were always together, always on the phone, and sleeping at each other's houses, but the last month or so she became really distant, was barely calling me. But here's the thing--she told me she loved me the first week and we even were trying to have a baby, so I was really lost when she became distant.

    She would get mad if I would call her more than once. When she would not answer the only time in that month we were together is when we went on a trip which was great, but when we got back home, same old s**t. She told me I'm too needy and that I was acting weird. I told her, "No, I'm not. I just wish we can be like we were." She told me, "I'm busy. Get that through your dam head." I told her, "Fine. You call me when you can."

    Well, like a week of no contact went by, and she called and said, "I want you at my house at 8 pm for a party," so I went. It was really fun. We got really drunk but everything was great but she got mad because she gave me her phone when she went to get more liquor and some guy kept texting her. I didn't open them but just put her phone in the room. When she got back, she ran to her phone and started texting him. I asked, "Who is that? Is it a friend that's coming?" She said, "No, he's not coming."

    So the next day when I got home, she texted me really mad. "I have friends you don't know and don't need to know. If you don't trust me, just leave." I told her its not like that. I'm sorry I asked. "Jeez," she said, "don't act like it's my fault. You're the one that acts stupid." I told her please just drop it. She said, "You don't trust me, so just leave." So I said, "Fine, I'm done."

    Well, it's been like two months and she is unfazed by it, is having so much fun and I'm all depressed, have tried everything to move on but I'm still sad. I even went a little crazy and contemplated suicide. I just don't understand how a girl who said she loved me and tried having a child with me would just drop me like a bad habit. She was not my first anything but I have never hurt like this.

    Please--any help would be so much appreciated. Sorry for how long this is.

    So my question is there any hope or chance for me after making all the classic mistakes after break up thank you in advance
  • Dec 31, 2012, 10:10 PM
    talaniman
    Pull yourself together guy. Consider yourself really lucky because things were getting bad and would have gotten worse. Control freaks are like that but in time, it gets better.
  • Jan 1, 2013, 09:57 AM
    gemmagee
    Maybe you rushed it too quickly. Sometimes its best to take it slow, it has more of a chance to develop then... u can get too much of a good thing, especially in the beginning (the honey moon period) its always best to get to know someone before u commit too much and too fast.

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