You might remember the girl I wanted to marry a year ago. Well, she broke my heart. Used me for money, shelter, food, and luxuries then skedaddled when I wasn't useful anymore. It took almost a year to get over the heartbreak. I was numb for the entire time, but I am now healed. Well, now to my point.

I've known a man for a few years, we are great friends. As we are long distance friends, we communicate via phone calls. We spend hours every night talking. About a month ago we decided for me to move in with him, for me to get away from my abusive father and for him to have help on his bills. I move in in a couple of months. I recently realized I am head over heels for this guy! Not in a childish, Oh emm gee I so love him way but that I care deeply for him. I don't know when it started because I've been ignoring feelings remaining numb.

I told him of my interest in him and he told me that he finds my looks, mind, and personality attractive but that it will take a while for him to develop feelings for anyone because of parent abandonment, being used, and being heart broken in the past. I want to help him heal and I hope I can begin relationship with him, but how?

PS: I apologize for any errors. I am using a phone to type this out.

You are going from a woman to a man? You're going to move in with a man you have never met, only communicated with on line?
You now think you are in love with a man who has issues. I hope you know what you're doing.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

You are going from a woman to a man? You're going to move in with a man you have never met, only communicated with on line?
You now think you are in love with a man who has issues. I hope you know what you're doing.

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We have met before. And yes, I date men and women

Then you should not move in there with any romantic notions in mind,especially since he has told you what he feels. You can't help him heal. Be the friend you have always been or don't move in with him and possible destroy the friendship

Keep talking and have a few real in person dates before you move in with some one just to have some one. Especially one, like you that has issues. I don't care how long you have known someone, you never really know them without an extended interactions with them.

It's a long way from talking to living together, or as an excuse to change your present situation. Looks good on paper and feels thrilling, but reality is and can be much different.

Man or woman, NO difference. He said it will take a while, then you better be patient, and thoughtful BEFORE you leap into the unknown.