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  • Dec 28, 2012, 11:42 PM
    bori8989
    So I just found out my "best friend" slept with my boyfriend...
    So I just found out that my supposedly best friend slept with my boyfriend we weren’t together at the time but we have a baby together. So all along we've been trying to get back together and move back to his apartment. This "best friend" saw me crying over and over for him and she went and sleeps with him?

    I found out by a friend that recorded everything when she admitted. And the worst part is she still denies it and him also. I don’t want to tell them how I know even though if I do then they won’t have another choice to really admit it on my face.

    I feel so bad and completely betray specially from her since she’s the one that I trust all of my problems with him, and I hate that I have to see him for the rest of my life.

    How can I handle this horrible situation? How can I make them confess the truth in my face? Or should I just let it stay in the conscience?
  • Dec 29, 2012, 04:55 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    So is the boyfriend admitting it, and why are you not mad at him ? He was part of it also.

    If you are not mad at boyfriend with same anger you have to forgive the friend, since both are equal fault.

    If you were broke up, then you were broke up.

    Not much of a boyfriend, and not trying to get back together if he is sleeping with your friend.
  • Dec 29, 2012, 05:41 AM
    joypulv
    '.I found out by a friend that recorded everything when she admitted'
    And you have heard this recording?
    Because if not, you have nothing to be upset about - yet. Please answer back.
  • Dec 29, 2012, 01:48 PM
    bori8989
    He was the first person I got upset with, I confront him but he is too of a coward to admit it!
    And yes I did listen to the recording, is her voice, and I know her accent I know is her! I'm more upset with her because she's the woman, she's the one that used all my information to take advantage of the situation! I hate him to death, I wish I can just leave this town but like I said we have a 5 month old baby and that just make things more complicated! I'm surprised how hypocritical people can be?! But I put it this way, God is showing me the real people I should trust on and so far is my family, I'm happy I'm going to start a new year without those kind of people, I'm focusing more in my daughter and my career!

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    So is the boyfriend admitting it, and why are you not mad at him ? He was part of it also.

    If you are not mad at boyfriend with same anger you have to forgive the friend, since both are equal fault.

    If you were broke up, then you were broke up.

    Not much of a boyfriend, and not trying to get back together if he is sleeping with your friend.

    I did confront him, he was the first person I confront, and like I said we were trying to work things out for our baby but of course lust won!

    Quote:

    Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    '.i found out by a friend that recorded everything when she admitted'
    And you have heard this recording?
    Because if not, you have nothing to be upset about - yet. Please answer back.

    And yes I did listen to the recording, is her voice, and I know her accent I know is her! I'm more upset with her because she's the woman, she's the one that used all my information to take advantage of the situation! I hate him to death, I wish I can just leave this town but like I said we have a 5 month old baby and that just make things more complicated! I'm surprised how hypocritical people can be?! But I put it this way, God is showing me the real people I should trust on and so far is my family, I'm happy I'm going to start a new year without those kind of people, I'm focusing more in my daughter and my career!
  • Dec 29, 2012, 02:14 PM
    joypulv
    If you are in the US, you take steps to get Family Court to order him to submit his DNA, and you file for child support! That will give you something to do during all the pain. I'm very sorry that they did this AND are lying to you.
  • Dec 29, 2012, 02:43 PM
    talaniman
    Okay so your best friend isn't your best friend but what was the issue with your baby daddy in the first place? I suspect there is a lot more going on than just cheating. There seems to be huge problems between you two from the beginning.
  • Dec 29, 2012, 05:02 PM
    bori8989
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    If you are in the US, you take steps to get Family Court to order him to submit his DNA, and you file for child support! That will give you something to do during all the pain. I'm very sorry that they did this AND are lying to you.

    I already file for child support! Is on its process, I think that's why he wanted to get back with me on the first place cause he knows he's going to have to pay a lot since he gets pay good plus he's on the army!
  • Dec 29, 2012, 05:08 PM
    bori8989
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Okay so your best friend isn't your best friend but what was the issue with your baby daddy in the first place? I suspect there is a lot more going on than just cheating. There seems to be huge
    problems between you two from the beginning.

    The first reason we weren't together was cause he didn't want to stop partying every weekend and I found out he was seeing other girls. So I left him but a month later we tried to be together and from there we were always on and off, but when I heard the conversation she said that she left her boyfriend cause of my ex, so since I got out of he's aparmnt they've been having sex they even had a threesome with another friend of mine, this situation is so gross and I feel so sad and angry that my sweet baby girl has such an as a father! I am happy everything is falling into place which it makes me realize who my friends are :/ it's sad to find out the truth but I needed that slap lol

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