Hi there I've been doing meth for the past 9 months. I've quit for about a month each time and at least 3 times making it only 6 months or so. I want to quit but only a very small group of friends that I barely have contact with and would be no good source of support know that I do it. So therefore I have little to no support. To Quit. It's a dark very dark side of my life that somehow always finds me. Again and again. I figured I could definitely get away from it by leaving the town where I live and get clean. It works. It takes a bit to adjust back to life but my downfall is that I come and fall back to the same people and the same neighborhood where it all happens. I have friends that don't use but also don't know that I ever did. So I'd like to keep it that way. For many reasons. I will not tell my mother while I'm living under her roof. And as much as I'd love her support id rather keep things the way they are. I need all the supper and advice that I need. :( help!

Start with accepting this isn't a MILD addiction... recognise it for what it really is... a REAL addiction you can't walk away from...

You will have to take the step of finding new friends and avoiding those who still use. If you don't you aren't going to break free if the vicious circle that has a hold of you.

It would also help you if you sought professional help in your area... its going to be difficult but you need someone that's NOT using to mentor you.

Hello J:

Smoothy is right. An addiction IS an addiction. So, the FIRST thing to stopping, is admitting that you're an addict. Sugar coating it WON'T help.

You're NOT talking to a virgin either. I've taken a lot of drugs in my life, but that meth grabbed hold wouldn't let go like NO other drug I ever did. I did heroine and put it down. I did cocaine, and put it down too. Compared to meth, THEY were EASY to stop.

But, I did stop. And, I did it on my own. Ultimately, that's how you're going to do it too, IF you do it. Yes, you can get "support", and you can get people to "encourage" you. But, in the FINAL analysis, it's YOU, and only YOU running the show. If you NEED that kind of support, it's available. You have a local NA.

For me, I threw my pipes on the ground and smashed them to pieces.. It was SYMBOLIC, to be sure, but that's what I needed. I don't know what YOU need.

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My husband is a meth user too and I what him to stop also, its been a year now and he said he is not addicted to it.. and he said he can control using it, I don't know if I shoud believe him.

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Originally Posted by raela

My husband is a meth user too and i what him to stop also, its been a year now and he said he is not addicted to it.. and he said he can control using it, i dont know if i shoud believe him.

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You shouldn't believe him... because if he could have stopped he would have.

Meth users are never casual users... its exceptionally addictive...

Kicking any substance addiction is very hard and you need to get yourself into treatment. You may need help telling your mother or other people when you are ready, and help figuring out how to tell her and that's part of treatment - figuring those things out.

Meth is really addictive and like the others, I don't believe you have a "mild" addiction to meth. You're clearly distressed over it and struggling to stay away from it, but perhaps you mean you've not done it long enough for it to be obvious to others - you're keeping it under the radar. Don't wait until you erode your relationships with your family and ruin your teeth or body or prospects for the future - treat it like a serious addiction now.

To get help you can call your local hospital and ask for the help and they can refer you to services in your area. If they don't help, call Narcotics Anonymous, your doctor or Google for drug treatment in your area. Call until you find someone to meet with you immediately.

I would recommend you try to get into a residential program first. It's good to totally immerse yourself in treatment, in a place where accessing the drugs is impossible. When you are ready to move forward, they can help you figure out a next step. For one of my family members, it was a halfway house where he lived with other recovering addicts for a couple of years where there was some accountability - regular testing, the expectation that he be totally sober, expectation that he attend 12 step meetings regularly. Then when he was well into recovery, he moved out on his own, away from where he had been in trouble before.

For now just take the first step - call around and get into treatment. Don't worry about telling other people if you aren't ready to do that - just get into treatment. When you're there, they can help you figure out what and how to tell your mom so she knows you're safe and haven't just disappeared.

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Originally Posted by raela

My husband is a meth user too and i what him to stop also, its been a year now and he said he is not addicted to it.. and he said he can control using it, i dont know if i shoud believe him.

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That's what they all say. There's no such thing as a mild meth addict, there's no such thing as a meth addict that control using it. It's very addictive, much more than any drug out there. If you use it once, consider yourself a meth addict, that's how potent it is.

So no, your husband can't control using it, and he is addicted to it. He's lying to himself, and to you, because he wants his next fix without you nagging him about it.

He needs help, as does the OP (original poster).

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Originally Posted by smoothy

You shouldn't believe him....because if he could have stopped he would have.

Meth users are never casual users....its exceptionally addictive...

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I know every time he's using meth and this past few days he use more that 3 times I confronted him about this he said it is his way to stop using meth.. we are moving to another place in 2 days now because he want it too, I want to believe that he will quit using meth. I want to help him..

He needs more help than YOU are capable of giving... he IS addicted... he is seriously addicted. And he has been telling you lies.

You don't stop by continuing to get high... you stop by actually stopping.

Get him professional help now...

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Originally Posted by raela

I know every time he's using meth and this past few days he use more that 3 times i confronted him about this he said it is his way to stop using meth..we are moving to another place in 2 days now because he want it too, i want to believe that he will quit using meth. i want to help him..

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He's convinced you that he needs to use meth in order to stop using meth? Seriously? Think about that, it's like an alcoholic saying "I need to drink more so I can stop drinking".

He's a meth addict. You can't help him, only a professional can, and frankly, even a professional may not be able to help, because he's not ready to admit he has a problem.

You're better off leaving and letting him hit bottom. Bottom means he'll either get help, or die. Either way, you can't do a thing to help him if he doesn't want help. Meth is much more powerful than you are, and truly, he loves meth more than he loves anyone or anything, including you.

At first I was really nagging him about it but I became tired of it.. we are moving to another place in 2 days now because he wants it too, all his friends in our old house are all meth users, and they are the one who introduce meth to my husband. I really want to help him quit but I don't know how will I do it.

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Originally Posted by raela

At first i was really nagging him about it but i became tired of it.. we are moving to another place in 2 days now because he wants it too, all his friends in our old house are all meth users, and they are the one who introduce meth to my husband. i really want to help him quit but i dont know how will i do it.

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You can't do it, he has to. That's the point. Until he chooses to quit, and gets help to do it, he won't quit, and nothing you say or do will get him to quit. You seem to think this is something in your control, and it isn't. He doesn't even have control over it, that's how meth is.

Moving won't stop him from using. He's a meth addict, he has to stop using meth in order to stop being a meth addict, and even then he'll still be addicted to meth for the rest of his life. Most meth addicts relapse even after they've quit. It's a very powerful drug, and very addictive.

Should I ignore him and let him do what he wants to do and wait until the time he he'll told me he really wants to quit?

How will I get him to a professional help?

That depends on where you live. What country, state and county or city. If we have a general idea of where you are someone can post some specific places for you to call.

Im from the Philippines, we already move to another place what I notice is that he always sleeps and always hungry is that the sign that he's really not taking meth?but there's one thing that really hurts me a lot until now he thinks that I'm having an affair, which is not true. I don't know how to stop him from thinking like that.