Okay we were hanging out at one of our friends house and that's when he gave me the necklace. I set it down on the table where no body was so that I would not loose it but when I left I forgot about it so I called my friend and told her I left it there. The next morning my friend said it was no where to be seen but I think she maybe wasn't looking hard enough. I love my boyfriend and I'm thinking about just going out and buying the necklace again. What should I do?

First go back to your friend's house and try looking for it. If you can't find it, be honest with your boyfriend. There's no sense bringing a lie and deception into the relationship. Things happen and while it's tough when they do, that's an important thing in a relationship. If you marry one day, you'll have to be able to say, "I dented the car", or "I lost my job" or "I forgot to mail the electric bill and there's a late fee now". You aren't likely to be perfect. Or even, "I can't find my engagement ring - I'm in a panic! Can you help me find it?"

It's important to be authentic in your dating relationships because otherwise you will get kind of a fake, sanitized idea of who your boyfriend is, and he will get a fake idea of who you are. The point of dating is to learn the good, the bad and the ugly about each other to find out, honestly, if you are compatible.

Certainly I think it's fine, if you can't find it, to say, "I love it so much, mostly because you were so sweet to give it to me and you knew exactly what I would like. I want to replace it with an identical necklace - can you tell me where you bought it?"

I agree, be honest with boyfriend, if you buy one, he will most likely find out.

Lying in a relationship will only cause more trouble,

Necklace ? Why did you not just put it on , why did you have to lay it down?

I'm in the middle. You did 3 things that would hurt my feelings - you didn't put it on, you didn't put it in a pocket or bag, and then you forgot it! Ouch, double ouch, triple ouch. So although I wouldn't lie outright about losing it, I would gloss over the fact that you didn't even remember it when you left. I would say 'I put it down and it disappeared.'
Of course if you both left together, this won't work. And if he quizzes you about when you remembered, I'd tell the truth.
Things that go wrong with gift giving, however, shouldn't make or break a relationship. If you think you have to lie to keep someone's love, you are off to a bad start.

Gold is better I'm told, when people see it it disappears, one at the party as taken it ,tell your BF truth

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

I agree, be honest with boyfriend, if you buy one, he will most likely find out.

lying in a relationship will only cause more trouble,

Necklace ? why did you not just put it on , why did you have to lay it down?

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It was in a box so I set it down in there.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

I'm in the middle. You did 3 things that would hurt my feelings - you didn't put it on, you didn't put it in a pocket or bag, and then you forgot it! Ouch, double ouch, triple ouch. So although I wouldn't lie outright about losing it, I would gloss over the fact that you didn't even remember it when you left. I would say 'I put it down and it disappeared.'
Of course if you both left together, this won't work. And if he quizzes you about when you remembered, I'd tell the truth.
Things that go wrong with gift giving, however, shouldn't make or break a relationship. If you think you have to lie to keep someone's love, you are off to a bad start.

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Well 1st were only 14 2nd it was in a box so I set it down and 3rd I called my friend on the way home

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Originally Posted by jazzas

Gold is better im told, when people see it it dissapears, one at the party as taken it ,tell ur BF truth

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Thanks!

The truth is the best, even if he gets angry, or dissapointed.

I find it odd that you didn't put it on immediately when it was given to you.