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  • Dec 22, 2012, 11:38 PM
    newmom101
    Who is my baby's dad?
    Okay so I had my last period march 25. I had unprotected sex with my ex from April 3rd until about April 13th with him finishing in me every time. On April 12 I had a one night stand. I know this guy pulled out. I saw him do it. Now it says I ovulated on April 8th from lmp or April 10th from my due date. My dude date from my period is dec 30 but from the ultrsound its jan 1. so given that guy 1 finished inside me every time and me seeing guy 2 pull out who is most likely the father? Please don't judge I know its horrible. Thank you so much
  • Dec 22, 2012, 11:41 PM
    J_9
    With dates this close there is no way to know until you have the DNA test after the baby is born.
  • Dec 23, 2012, 12:08 AM
    dontknownuthin
    J-9 is exactly right. Your date of ovulation is an estimate and you would be fertile for a few days so there's no way to know. No judgment. Can I just suggest you slow down a bit with the men in your life and take a breath, focus on being a new mom, think about what's best for you and your baby. This might be a good time to do some counseling to figure out what you're looking for. I wouldn't judge you for this - clearly you need something and I doubt it was sex - perhaps feeling cared for, a sense of being connected to another person. It would be a really lovely gift to your child to work through this now so that you can have a satisfying life and romantic life for yourself, which will give you the support and confidence to be the best mom you can be. Congratulations on your baby. It will all work out - hang in there.
  • Dec 23, 2012, 12:21 AM
    J_9
    I have to totally agree with DKN (Dontknownuthin). There is no judgment here. Things happen.

    It is time to slow down and focus on being a new mother. New motherhood can be hard, as is pregnancy. Right now, during your pregnancy, you need to focus on you, your health and the health of the baby. Stress is not good for you. Once that baby is born you can concentrate on who may or may not be the father. Don't stress yourself over it right now.
  • Dec 23, 2012, 04:16 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    Pulling out does not stop plenty of sperm, so how they had the sex does not make any difference as to who we think the father is.

    In fact one could have used a condom each time ( they have a 3 to 10 percent failure rate) and that man would still be a possible.

    There just is no way to know now, so just let it go till the baby is born and then get the men tested
  • Dec 23, 2012, 02:28 PM
    geniegee2003
    From the dates and your estimated ovulation date, it would seem that man number 1 would be the father. However, unless you test with ovulation predictor tests there is no real way to know when you ovulated. You won't know who the father is until you have a DNA test carried out

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