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  • Dec 18, 2012, 10:23 PM
    lesego duwo
    Confused individual
    I've been wt a guy for 7yrs he told me he had 1 child when we meet and unfortunately found out that he has a 7yr old child early this year I felt lost all my trust in him because he lies to me all these yrs apparently when he met me he had already impregnanted hid ex girlfriend,I'm so confused because we are engages please help
  • Dec 20, 2012, 08:28 PM
    dontknownuthin
    Well, there's nothing confusing about it really. He lied in a really huge way to you. He has violated your trust in a very big way, even though you were engaged. He did not come clean to you prior to asking you to marry him.

    If I were you, I would break up with him. The fact that he kept this a secret would lead me to believe that he wanted to continue cheating in his relationships. Also, he's clearly not doing anything for this child or you would have known about it. The child would have been around on holidays, would be treated as a member of the family, would actually have a dad. If you marry this guy, I'm afraid you will just be signing up to be a single mom of kids who have a deadbeat dad.

    You can do better so move on.
  • Dec 20, 2012, 09:17 PM
    lesego duwo
    Ur so rite apparently thy wr not in speaking terms while de gal was pregnant so he waited 4 de child to be born den started supportn his child,which was very cruel of him I must say so he went to see his child behind my back which sadiness me a lot.ur so rite they might hv been seeing each other as well who knows
  • Dec 21, 2012, 02:09 PM
    dontknownuthin
    You really don't need to know any more. The bottom line is that he had a child he didn't tell you about for years and you can't marry someone who's done that. Noe enough integrity.

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