This girl whom I've known and have been good friends with since grade school, I have had feelings for her for 3 years now (started in eighth grade, now grade 11). So far, I've only ever had the guts to ask her if she wanted to hang out sometime (i.e. not a date, just as friends), and ask her out to school dances, and make her Christmas cards, that I, of course, delivered. In about grade 10 or so, I've seen her with another guy, and yes, I'd feel "hurt". Now, in grade 11, things are even more challenging for me as she transferred to another school (as said by fellow classmates of mine), and has a boyfriend (as I have seen online). Since grade 11, it has been difficult reaching her: I have to either email her, tweet her, or (the ol' fashioned way) drop letters off at her house.

Currently, as you all know it is getting so dang close to Christmas, and I feel like I need her to know how I really feel about her before time runs out -- and that if there is any luck, maybe I'll have an extra person to spend my holiday with. The only thing is, according to what she has posted over the 'net, she is already with a boyfriend. And I couldn't live with it if I was to tell her, and then ruin her relationship with her boyfriend, and our friendship, and have her hurt because of something I could have waiting to tell her, or just be quiet about. But, the truth is, I have been such a coward to do ANY of it in person, or through phone calls, tweets, emails, etc..

Please, if anyone can help, I really I might need some advice. Thanks, and happy Christmas.

Don't waste your holiday or any other day trying to get with a friend who has a partner already. Send a friendly card and make plans for your own fun for the season. Time isn't running out on anything but what you plan for yourself.

It is time to let this go. She has someone in her life and it would be inappropriate for you to spill your guts to her now.
You are in control of your life, live it.

Just an update (which I forgot about posting since): I decided to send a friendly Christmas card to her, and a bit later, I found out that she blocked me on Twitter (when I was lookin' at some tweets). Now I've been trying to reach her to apologize for what had happened (i.e. I suspect she took it a different way than what I had hoped), I've tried sending an email, and apologizing to her via Twitter, even made a second account to apologize. And I'm suspecting she'd probably appreciate me not sending any more letters (even of apology), or knockin' on her door to talk in person, or calling her. Basically, a part of me feels like she's done with me. So, yeah, now I really don't know what to do, other than get lucky, or superfrig up.

This sort of thing happened to me. I liked this girl but she already had a boyfriend. After getting embarrassed soooooo many times, I gave up. There are plenty of fish in the sea bro. Good luck!!
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Leave the girl alone. Don't try to contact her in any way. What you are doing now borders on stalking and it's creepy. Give it up.

My question to you is:
Would you whole heartedly accepd her back for the long term knowing fully well that she had made someone else more important then you at some stage in her life as you can see by blocking you off for him?

If you don't... then why are you still pursuing someone who had treated you as second best?
If you do... are you willing to have a suspicious relationship with her knowing fully well where her haert first went to?

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My question to you is:
Would you whole heartedly accepd her back for the long term knowing fully well that she had made someone else more important then you at some stage in her life as you can see by blocking you off for him?

If you don't...............then why are you still pursuing someone who had treated you as second best?
If you do.................are you willing to have a suspicious relationship with her knowing fully well where her haert first went to?

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Actually, I think I'm already living out the "If you do".
By the way, sorry for the late notice, just checked on.
Also, I thought I'd see what you guys think: I am trying to find some way to apologize to her:

• I've apologized via my own acct. on Twitter (pls do not go trying to find the post).
• I've made a 2nd acct., and attempted, but got IT blocked too.

So, should I

• Make another Twitter account and try again?
• Send emails to her 3 or so email accounts?
• Apologize in person (e.g. Knock on her door, and wait for her to come out.)
• etc.

Or do yas think it is better to leave her be, without her and I both knowing I'm sorry, and I should just move on with life, etc.
Thanks for your opinions and honesty. Greatly appreciate it!

Don't contact her at all.
Changing your account and sending her emails is stalking. Leave the girl alone and get on with your life.

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Don't contact her at all.
Changing your account and sending her emails is stalking. Leave the girl alone and get on with your life.

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Then how can I apologize to her? She's my friend, and she deserves to know.

You have tried many times already. She wants no part of it. Leave her alone.

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Then how can I apologize to her? She's my friend, and she deserves to know.

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Hello my fdriend... you do not need to apologies for you done no wrong but just lost the connections which is not your fault.
I think its best not to use internet options anymore but prepare in case you cross paths once more and express you love to her so she knows you still very much interested. Let her decide who to choose.If she said she don't like you then leave and next time around tell her again you love her... and on and on!

Don't look for her... thats stalking! Leave her alone but hope and wide open your eyes as you walk along. Her school is not that far so you have all the chances to meet her somewhere!

Leave this girl alone. She knows how you feel and she does not care.
Move on. There is a girl out there for you. You don't need to continue to sniff after this girl.

You are stuck in a very sticky situation here. I had this problem not only had but still do have this problem. I tried to find out why this girl who dated another guy suddenly stopped texting me and contacting me all together. And I still have a lot of feelings for her. But that doesn't mean she likes me that way somy advice is give some time trust me there are others who have this problem to.

Well?

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Well??

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Well.. How's it going so far for you BLAZON.. Feeling any good after all?

You have contacted the girl, and she has blocked you. That's the end of it. You don't have the right to decide what she "deserves to know" from you.
She has let you know by blocking you, that she doesn't want any contact with you. I know it's hard to let go of someone you care about, but you need to move on, When you refuse to stay away from someone who is blocking you from their life, you are disrespecting their wishes. You don't do that to someone you really care about. Let her go.

Don't try to spoil the a happy relationship, it will be a treachery. Leave the girl alone and look around, there are many.

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... You don't have the right to decide what she "deserves to know" from you. ...

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I didn't mean it that way. I want her to know my apologt because I'm sure I've hurt her.

She does not care, she does not want to hear from you. Leave her alone.