I caught my 9 year old son looking up "naked" online. Needless to say... just having typed in that word pulled up TONS of disgusting pictures... as icons no less. Needless to say, we took away ALL of his internet access. A week has gone by and I just caught him hiding in our guest room with his 6 year old sister. Her panties and pajamas bottoms were off and I was able to get out of them that "he wanted to play a game." She then told me that "he wanted to put his privates in my hiney." I am at a loss... and disgusted all at the same. What to I do?

You need to seek a child counselor for your son. Looking up nudie pictures is a normal curiosity, but sexually molesting his 6 year old sister is not.

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Originally Posted by romina12

u should see if they did anything or not !!
is she virgin????
if not that would be a problem!!

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Huh? Did you not read that her bottom was bare? Whether the OP caught them 'in time' (apparently) or not is immaterial. This is already a problem. Even if he did penetrate her that's actually less of a problem then the fact he was trying to molest her. At 9 this boy is beyond the normal curiosity stage.

He needs to see a counselor and the sister needs to be taught about inappropriate touching.

First breathe and have a real talk with him about sex, have you explained all of the sex and the differences to him yet, with some kids in public school being sexually active by 12 many times 9 is a normal age for the "talk"

Next sorry but a week without computer for just looking up "photos" more of a talk to him about them, and to be sure he was not being taught that sex was bad. A more open mind to remember that 9 year olds have always done this, if it was national geographic magizines when I was young, or looking at someone's playboy, boys 9 have been doing this forever.
So you need to be sure not to treat a normal interest as something bad and evil.

What you need to do is educate him on all the details and explain the right and wrong about it.

I made the assumption that you did have a talk with him about right and wrong, proper and improper behavior. But Chuck is right, if you haven't talked to him then that would be the first thing I would do.

In fact, I suspect that you may not have had this talk with either child. That your daughter allowed him to take off her bottoms indicates she has not been talked to about inappropriate behaviors. And may indicate that he hasn't either.

But if you have explained to him the facts of life and he still tried to molest his sister, then he needs counseling.

It was this phrase that concerned me

Pulled up TONS of disgusting pictures

They may be adult pictures but they would not be disgusting,
They may be too mature for children but they are proper for adults normally.


I am always concerned when people over react on a normal interest, and make it sound like something nasty or disgusting, and will cause all sorts of issues latter in life trying to have a normal sex life.
Proper and controlled talk, but not making it sound evil or disgusting

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

It was this phrase that concerned me

pulled up TONS of disgusting pictures

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All good points. The OP needs to do some self examination about the message she is giving to her young children. While I still think 9 is too old to allow this to be dismissed as normal curiosity, if the parents are sending the wrong messages, whether deliberately or unconsciously, that could change the dynamic. A good counselor can get to the bottom of this