Ask Me Help Desk - Feeling Guilty Need Advise

Please tell me how do I overcome this.

I am in my mid twenties in love with this guy who is in his early twenties. We want to get married but know that there is a dim / zero possibility of this happening due to age and certain reasons. We talk to each other daily at night briefing each other about the happening of the day but a couple of days back our conversation became very romantic and it took form of virtual/phone sex. First time ever did we speak this way in or lives and decided not to do this again but it just happened for the second time too yesterday.We both are virgins and feel guilty about the way the conversations happened. Though we know that its natural for couples do get involved this way at some point of time I feel morally shaken and feel being a female that too elder to him I must have controlled myself. He is being very supportive and asking me to forget it as its natural and that he too is equally responsible for such talk to happen but I just can't get this thing out of my head and feel heavy guilt and shame.

I am going to his city for a day on a business trip in a few days and he will come to see me at the airport. I wonder after the way we spoke on the phone how would we face each other as the very thought of it makes me feel very embarrassing and fills me full of guilt. What should I do to avoid this?

Honestly, I think you should just be yourself and be happy. I'm sure he will be the same.

Also if your both in your 20's I think it's okay for you to have phone sex without guilt.

Relax will you. You to can share many intimate things so don't be so uptight about a little phone sex, you both enjoyed it didn't you?

I want to praise you for holding on the your virginity for this long and I hope you will remain until marriage. You will never regret it!

When I was a virgin, I use to wonder how in the world could someone have sex with someone and still look at them the next day! I couldn't understand how you could over come the embarrassment of the whole situation. But when I lost my virginity to someone I loved, I learned that it isn't so much embarrassing as it is growing together and learning each other.

But don't beat yourself up about the phone sex issue. You both did it mutually and there is nothing to be embarrassed about or feel guilty about.

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Originally Posted by PST04

Please tell me how do I overcome this.

I am in my mid twenties in love with this guy who is in his early twenties. We want to get married but know that there is a dim / zero possibility of this happening due to age and certain reasons. We talk to each other daily at night briefing eachother about the happening of the day but a couple of days back our conversation became very romantic and it took form of virtual/phone sex. First time ever did we speak this way in or lives and decided not to do this again but it just happened for the second time too yesterday.We both are virgins and feel guilty about the way the conversations happened. Though we know that its natural for couples do get involved this way at some point of time I feel morally shaken and feel being a female that too elder to him I must have controlled myself. he is being very supportive and asking me to forget it as its natural and that he too is equally responsible for such talk to happen but I just can't get this thing out of my head and feel heavy guilt and shame.

I am going to his city for a day on a business trip in a few days and he will come to see me at the airport. I wonder after the way we spoke on the phone how would we face each other as the very thought of it makes me feel very embarrassing and fills me full of guilt. What should I do to avoid this?

Meeting him on your trip there will be no way to avoid feelings. Doesn't sound like your married yet and maybe it's not meant to be. The only way you are going to know is to meet this guy and go from there. Maybe it's an intervention from God with the relationship your in now. As far as age, you two aren't that far apart. If there is a 10 to 20 year difference then you might worry. Love is a strange thing, hard to understand sometimes, and truly wonderful at the same time. Phone sex you can only fantasize who is on the other end. How do you know has a suave tongue with the looks of Frankenstien? I really don't like blind dates.