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  • Dec 12, 2012, 02:31 AM
    ayush779
    Sexual play scare!!
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    I am a 19 year old guy. I have a girlfriend. Once we were alone at home and we started having a kiss and all. I imitated to her how sex is done with our clothes ON. Now after that session she became skeptical if she would become pregnant. I know it's impossible. But please do tell me if it can happen at all or not. It was just an imitation with her sitting on my laps and me pressing against her hips. Please do help and tell me if she could by any means have become pregnant?
  • Dec 12, 2012, 02:33 AM
    Curlyben
    More chance of me becoming Pope of MARS!!
  • Dec 12, 2012, 05:02 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    19 and don't know about pregnancy ? Don't need to be even talking about it, till you learn what it is
  • Dec 12, 2012, 06:55 AM
    ayush779
    I actually do know what all it is. But can't help my girlfriend understand it...
    Just tell if it's a yes or no.. Because for me it's a big NO
  • Dec 12, 2012, 07:00 AM
    J_9
    No. It's impossible in your situation.
  • Dec 12, 2012, 07:00 AM
    odinn7
    How old is she?
  • Dec 12, 2012, 07:04 AM
    ayush779
    She is 18yrs old but highly skeptical. Despite of knwing the complete facts about sex.

    Thanks a lot...
  • Dec 12, 2012, 07:14 AM
    J_9
    Sperm cannot penetrate through clothing. Apparently your girlfriend knows less about sex and pregnancy than she is telling you.
  • Dec 13, 2012, 08:37 AM
    ayush779
    What is excess?
    I have been in a relationship fr 1 year. I am 19. I want to ask what is exceeding in a relationship? When is the tym to halt?
  • Dec 13, 2012, 08:38 AM
    Wondergirl
    Exceeding in what? Kissing? Sex? Touching? Saying "I love you"?
  • Dec 13, 2012, 08:42 AM
    odinn7
    I confuse
  • Dec 13, 2012, 09:23 AM
    LightCross
    We can't answer a questions that are not specific, try to narrow down your question please.
  • Dec 14, 2012, 04:49 AM
    ayush779
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Exceeding in what? kissing? sex? touching? saying "I love you"?

    I mean to say in being physical I.e kissing,touching. Whn z it said that the limits have been crossd? Does sex mean its height??
  • Dec 14, 2012, 04:58 AM
    LightCross
    The limits depend on the time you both spent together and your partner's character, there is not a fixed limit really. The longer you spent time with your partner the more open you and your partner will be. Some people willing to do kiss or even sex at first week in their relationship while some don't , I would say get to understand your partner better to know the limit
  • Dec 14, 2012, 07:33 AM
    ayush779
    bt she has alllowed me to do anythng with her... she says her body z mine. I don't want to take any advntage ata ll... what to do??
  • Dec 14, 2012, 08:17 AM
    Wondergirl
    Is virginity important in your country when a woman gets married?
  • Dec 15, 2012, 08:38 AM
    ayush779
    yes it z desired
  • Dec 15, 2012, 08:43 AM
    Wondergirl
    Then to avoid excess, do not touch her underneath her clothing or so closely over her clothing that you lose your good sense and decide to make love to her. If you have sex with her, she will become worthless in your culture. Many women have been killed by their families because of the shame that their daughter is no longer a virgin. (If the world was fair, the male who took her virginity should be killed too then... )
  • Dec 15, 2012, 12:21 PM
    talaniman
    Excess in a relationship should be avoided by not doing anything to compromise either of your dignity and self respect, or bring shame or guilt. That means a lot of talking before you do ANYTHING.

    Its just to easy for lust, strong feelings and curiosity to lead you into things you know little about or have NO experience with. Get the facts as well as the feelings before you act. Dry humping (imitating sex is not love, but lust, and no, you can't get her pregnant) can bring about many urges and feelings and the need to explore. So can kissing and touching.

    You both could stand to learn as you explore and experiment, and set some boundaries of good safe behavior and actions for yourselves.
  • Dec 15, 2012, 09:37 PM
    ayush779
    Thanks a lot to all.. that was very helpful of u all.

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