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My partners are jerks?

At school we r doing projects. I was partnered with 2 jerks. They want me to do this ridiculous stuff, and my teacher is no help. We will be working for 3 more weeks on this. How can I get through this and still get a good grade? :(

I'll be happy to give you some good ideas, but please tell me about the project and why they are jerks. What do they want you to do?

How is your teacher no help? Did you explain what exactly they are doing, or are you complaining because you wanted to be partners with friends?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

I'll be happy to give you some good ideas, but please tell me about the project and why they are jerks. What do they want you to do?

we have to perform a play and they always try to take advantage of me. They want me to beat someone up and flirt with someone

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Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

How is your teacher no help? Did you explain what exactly they are doing, or are you complaining because you wanted to be partners with friends?

she says she will do something, but she never does. I don't care if I am with my friends, they r just always trying to get me to do odd stuff

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Originally Posted by Fifi17

she says she will do something, but she never does. I don't care if I am with my friends, they r just always trying to get me to do odd stuff

Have you told your parents about this? If it's as bad as you say then tell your mom and dad and have them talk to the teacher about this.

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Originally Posted by Alty

Have you told your parents about this? If it's as bad as you say then tell your mom and dad and have them talk to the teacher about this.

I have but they don't understand how bad it is. Probably what I would have said to someone so thanks for the answer! I would love to hear more ideas though

Just say no to your fellow group members. If you give in, you become a doormat for the future. You are an equal member, so keep your power and don't give it away so they will like you or whyever you are giving it away. Of course, I would expect you to refuse politely and respectfully and offer other options.

Was your group given a certain play to act out?

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Originally Posted by Fifi17

i have but they don't understand how bad it is. Probably what I would hav said to someone so thanks 4 the answer! I would love to hear more ideas though

I wish I had more ideas, the only thing I can think of, if you're stuck in this group, is to do your part of the work, and let them fail on their own if that's what they intend to do. Make sure the teacher knows that this group is difficult to work with (which you've already done) excel with your part in this group, and let the chips fall where they may.

Is there a group leader? If so, who? Also, what grade is this?

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Originally Posted by Fifi17

we hav to perform a play and they always try to take advantage of me. They want me to beat someone up and flirt with someone

You have to perform a play for class... I understand that. Where does the beat someone up part come in? Or the flirt with someone? Is that part of the play?

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Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

You have to perform a play for class...I understand that. Where does the beat someone up part come in? Or the flirt with someone? Is that part of the play?

Good question.

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Originally Posted by Alty

Good question.

I figure this is right up my alley... a little interrogating never hurts.

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Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

I figure this is right up my alley....a little interrogating never hurts.

I love it when TJ becomes the teacher/interrogator. Makes me all tingly inside. :)

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Originally Posted by Alty

I love it when TJ becomes the teacher/interrogator. Makes me all tingly inside. :)

With Kinders, I don't get to do much, but those 4th graders on up, :)

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You have to perform a play for class...I understand that. Where does the beat someone up part come in? Or the flirt with someone? Is that part of the play?

yes I go to a catholic school and in the play you are supposed to flirt :( recently my relative passed away so I have missed school. I do not know what is going on ;( they try to take advantage of me. Can someone just think of an idea please

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Originally Posted by Fifi17

yes I go to a catholic school and in the play u r supposed to flirt :( recently my relative passed away so I hav missed school. I do not know what is going on ;( they try to take advantage of me. Can someone just think of an idea plz

Speak to your teacher. Ask for a time to speak without your group around. Explain the situation. I think the problem is that they started working on the project without you because you were absent. If flirting in a play makes you uncomfortable, let your teacher know. If that doesn't work, have your parents get involved.

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Originally Posted by teacherjenn4

You have to perform a play for class...I understand that. Where does the beat someone up part come in? Or the flirt with someone? Is that part of the play?

yes but guys it is OK now! Thx for all the answers u helped so much ;)

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Originally Posted by Fifi17

yes but guys it is ok now! Thx for all the answers u helped so much ;)

Well, all that drama for nothing. Glad it's okay now, when it was so detrimental only yesterday. Sigh.

Good luck.

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Originally Posted by Alty

Well, all that drama for nothing. Glad it's okay now, when it was so detrimental only yesterday. Sigh.

Good luck.

I am so srry but the guy broke his arm so I don't have to deal with him! :( sooo srry

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Originally Posted by Fifi17

i am so srry but the guy broke his arm so I don't hav to deal with him! :( sooo srry

No need to be sorry. I have a teenager, so I get it. But really, you were asking us to come up with a solution. We gave you the only possible solutions, and none were good enough. Suddenly the issue is resolved.

That's teen life for you. Big drama one minute, fine the next. I get it. I have a teen, and I was once a teen. But this is a lesson for you. There's always a solution, and no issue that you think is so big, is really as big as you think it is. :)