You: Okay, so me and my girlfriend have known each other for a year but have only been together going on 2 months. Anyway when I knew her she had a boyfriend and she broke up with him but they were together for 9 months. We go out now and have had sex but when we did I was a virgin, she was my first time. I found out later that she wasn't a virgin and it bothered me a little. She was only with her last boyfriend and me (she said I was better than him) but it bothered me, I tried to go down on here when we were having sex and she didn't let me. We were talking about sexual stuff the other day and I told her she should have let me, she told me that she isn't huge on that, but anyway long story short she let her last boyfriend eat her out and she gave him head. That really irked me but I didn't say anything. I'm not sure how many times she's had sex but I want to ask her, should I? Also should any of this even bother me or am I overreacting? She's told me she is crazy about me and all that and I feel the same, but Idk. Oh and I'm 17 my girlfriend is 15.


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You are over reacting and being childish.

As you get older 20, 25 and so on, girlfriends will have had dozens of partners perhaps and all types of sex.

1. you should not ask or talk about ex's, esp if you are not mature enough to do so

I agree. Who cares what she did with her former boyfriend? Did he also take her to better steak restaurants than you? Who cares? Move on.

Okay, I want to hang out with my girlfriend on New Years Eve, but her dad is a real strict parent and doesn't really let her go anywhere by herself. So I figured if I went to talk to him maybe he would let her go with me to somewhere on New Years because he kind of knows who I am and knows I am a good kid. But there is one little problem, he only speaks Spanish and I only speak English. I understand Spanish though. I told my girlfriend this and she agreed but now she says she's scared to tell her dad she has a boyfriend because she never has, and she's even more scared for him to meet me. Also she told me that every time she tells her mom that I want to meet her dad she laughs, and her mom knows me pretty well. is that bad? So how can I convince her to let me talk to her dad and how can I be successful and effective when I talk to her dad? Thank you.

Is her mom on your side about this date on New Year's Eve? If so, enlist her help and also ask her to translate for you and the dad. And your girlfriend should also be part of this meeting.

You don't say how old each of you is...
I'm wondering if this isn't just a little too much, and at the last minute. You are going to want to stay out past midnight, he knows nothing about you, and it's only 2 days away.
I think I would have done all this a lot sooner, and with a lot smaller date, such as dinner and home by 9.
Give it a try as Wondergirl suggests, but don't be surprised if he won't let her go anywhere.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

You don't say how old each of you is...
I'm wondering if this isn't just a little too much, and at the last minute. You are going to want to stay out past midnight, he knows nothing about you, and it's only 2 days away.
I think I would have done all this a lot sooner, and with a lot smaller date, such as dinner and home by 9.
Give it a try as Wondergirl suggests, but don't be surprised if he won't let her go anywhere.

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Well her mom likes me and she said I should probably meet him. But her dad has let her go places with me before. She says she's going with me and he doesn't usually let her go anywhere with guys but he does let her go with me. So it's not the first time I go somewhere with her. And we usually stay out later then 9 when we do go somewhere.

AND... how old are you each??

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Originally Posted by joypulv

AND... how old are you each???

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I'm 17 she's 15

From a dad of a fifteen year old (was).

Hang out early and have my daughter safely at home bringing in the New Year. You can be there with her (and me) but she ain't going to be out when the drunk partiers are. No WAY!!

If she isn't home by 10, I keel you!! You got my drift youngster? Now impress me!

Okay, so I was just going through my feed on fb and it showed my girlfriend commented on a post on her wall. A guy posted on her wall, obviously flirting, and he was saying how she fell asleep while skyping him. She said cause they were boring then he asked her if she wanted him to strip. He said it in a joking matter but still. Then he said next time they skype he's going to have her strip. She said no and that her boyfriend wouldn't like that, and then he said I would get over it. That part really irked me. Now I trust her, but I don't trust him, especially since they used to "talk" sometime last year. Also some guy told her 'she shouldn't go out with that bum and she should break up with me and go out with the guy that was flirting with her." Should I message these guy's something or just ignore it? On a side note, should it bother me my girlfriend is skyping with these 2 guys?

Yes, it would bother me if my girlfriend were talking like this with other men. I would talk with her about it, and if she doesn't stop, or doesn't say she is sorry, I would then find myself some new friends. Be honest and respectful of others, and you will find someone who will pay attention to you only, and leave others alone. Good luck, and have a great new year.
PS; I would NOT message these guys. It's your girlfriend who is answering and talking with them. It's her fault so far.

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Originally Posted by samcreed

Yes, it would bother me if my girlfriend were talking like this with other men. I would talk with her about it, and if she doesn't stop, or doesn't say she is sorry, I would then find myself some new friends. Be honest and respectful of others, and you will find someone who will pay attention to you only, and leave others alone. Good luck, and have a great new year.
PS; I would NOT message these guys. It's your girlfriend who is answering and talking with them. It's her fault so far.

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Well she told him she wasn't ever going to do that. Soo I don't know. And she told that dude she wasn't going to break up with me.

I definitely wouldn't contact the men that are without a doubt making complete fools of themselves. It will only make you look pathetic that you are angrily messaging them. Keep your dignity intact and don't let them see that it makes you so upset.

Now in terms of your girlfriend contacting them, if she has any decency at all she will realize they are not worth the effort and delete them as friends, especially if she wants to preserve the relationship with you. She probably knows you have access to her fb and can see these inappropriate comments on there. Be honest with her and tell her your concerns but of course not in an accusatory way. You can start by saying, "I see _______ and ________ are giving you a hard time." See how she reacts. If she expresses that she is annoyed then ask her why she continues to speak with them. Maybe she will reflect on this question and realize that keeping those friendships alive is entertaining something indecent. If she jokes back and says, "yeah they're just like that" or she has an equally casual response, then take it as a sign that she is turned on by these douchebags requests. That will be an indicator to you on where she stands in the relationship and whether you want to invest anything further with her.

You should not be mad at the men, they are just being men, your girlfriend, why is she not a ex girlfriend now, obviously has no issue doing this and talking with them.

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Originally Posted by valero1234

I'm 17 she's 15

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This is typical young girl behavior with some inappropriate boundaries. If you are going to be her boyfriend, then you better be a lot more secure, and understand she is far more flirty than you are use too.

She is also confident and more experienced than you are too. If she wasn't, you would still be a virgin more than likely so don't let her freak you out with her behavior. Don't be threatened by her behavior, just know when you have had enough, and when she crosses a line for you, don't be so stuck you can't walk away and find a better girl friend.

Why let a fast 15 year old screw your head up.

Okay,so me and my girlfriend were talking about sex and what not and I told her how I want to go down on her(since she only let me once for like 5 seconds) and she said maybe she'd let me. I asked why "maybe" and she said it's "awkward" with me. She's gone down on ME before and I told her how I want to go down on her and I always try during sex, which we have quite a bit. I asked her has it only been awkward with me and she said yes.. I know she let her last boyfriend go down on her so, and since she won't let me and says its only awkward with me that means it wasn't when the other guy did it(she's only been with 2 guys including me). Should this bother me this much or should I let it go?


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What does she mean by "awkward"?

Is this the same girlfriend you had in December?

Have you had a birthday?

She is 15 and maybe she isn't ready for the kind of sex you as an older guy want her to have!!

So back off and stop making this about what you want since you are seducing a kid. You should know better and I hope her daddy finds about how you are using his daughter.

He should have stomped a mud hole in your a$$ when you first came sniffing around you selfish disrespectful young B@STARD!!


Oh I forgot to warn you that this may be VERY Harsh!!!!!!!!!!