My son stopped talking to me the day he married,his wife is a controllig,evil person who wanted him all to herself and made it her mission to get rid of me along the way,my son and I were once extremely close,my husband and his father died 22 years ago when he was 4, I raised him and his brother and sister on my own,my son is smart,goodlooking,and a great guy,much more to this story but the bottom line is that I don't deserve this treatment,yo make matters worse they live on the west coast and me on the east,they knew not one person where they moved but it was HER dream to live far away... I need help to cope with this awful situation

I'm very sorry for your loss. This happens more than you might imagine. There is nothing you can do but be patient and refrain from sending out angry hurtful messages to anyone that might get back to them. Stay in touch here because there are other mothers (and fathers, although not as many go online) just like you. Keep a Facebook page, send a card twice a year, maybe even her birthday! Don't ask for or demand anything. Send pics of vacations, nieces and nephews, pretend it's not happening. Take the high road. It will hurt but it's your best hope.

There are always two sides to every story. You say that your daughter in law is evil. I'm sure you made her well aware of how you felt about her all throughout their relationship. It's hard to hide that kind of hatred.

You did a lot for your kids. Do you remind them of it every day? Do you feel like they owe you something?

Your son has chosen this woman. Like it or not, he's an adult, and he loves her, and he's chosen to make a life with her. Every decision they make, they make together. It may have been her idea to move, but he went along with it. She may not want you in her life, but that doesn't mean he has to agree. If he chose, he could contact you, and keep you in his life. He hasn't.

There's more to this than what you're saying. Are you sure you're completely innocent in all of this?

If you want a relationship with him, you have to accept her, and make an effort, no matter how much you hate her. If you can't do that, which it sounds like you haven't, then you accept that he doesn't want your negativity towards his wife, in his life.

Good luck.