Hello, I'm 20 and I have a rather high sex drive (as in I could do it 3-4 times a day) but I have never had a partner who could match it. I have liked this guy for going on 7 years and we recently have been spending more and more time together. He stayed with me for two weeks and we hit it off. The only issue is that he has a hurt back and can't really have sex. I like him, probably more than I should at this time, and want to make him happy. I enjoy going down on him and making him , but I don't want it to get boring. I am too scared to ask for sex from him because it hurts, but I want it so bad. What do I do?

I know exactly what you're feeling. The flurry of frustration and guilt and hurt that can come when you're always ready for sex but your partner never is.

Tips: don't throw yourself at him, let him initiate. Talk to him about it. And at the end of the day, understand everyone is different in the bedroom and its perfectly fine to get things done yourself to avoid that anger of dissatisfaction.

There are positions that work for people with any number of injuries. You being on top should put a lot less strain on his back.

In the end, though, you need to be able to talk to him. Maybe he's afraid of initiating anything because he doesn't want to scare you off. Maybe he has ideas for positions, but doesn't think you'll be open to the idea. If you can't have a healthy conversation about sex, it's going to be hard to have a healthy sex life.