Im 38 I had a baby with my fiancé and he is 51. Earlier in our relationship he proved to be a wonderful lover although he refused to perform orally refusing to talk about why. Then during my pregnancy he stopped having sex with me and I still wanted to but he only wants to do it missionary and we couldn't so I was cut off. Now we only have sex maybe once a month and its not that pleasurable because its so rare and I'm growing deeper depressed. I tried talking to him but he thinks we have a decent amount of sex.

You knew how he was before and now that you have had a child which is a life changing event, it will take time for you both to adjust. I think a lack of honest communications is at the heart of this conflict.

How old is your child? How long have you been together?