9 month old cries/screams with new nanny
I am a mother of a 9 month old baby girl... I recently quit my office job to be at home starting a new career as a freelance writer, where I work from home. I've hired a nanny for 4 hours a day to watch my baby while I try working and marketing myself, and we're only in the 2nd week, but it is not going well at all. Today I hit a breaking point and I really need some help!
My daughter started at a daycare center at 4 months old but only went there for about 3.5 months (until I started this new job). I feel terrible having changed her situation twice in a short period, but we thought having someone care for her in our house would be a good thing, and that she might like it even more... NOPE.
She is really a pretty good baby when it comes to new people, strangers, but the second we hired our new nanny, she screams whenever she's in the room, even if I'm in there with them. The first few days I tried being around with the two of them so she would see that I trust the nanny, I'm not disappearing, but that did not work. She even cried when I would sit next to the two of them on the floor. Only when I held her would she stop. I'd get her calm and try putting her with the nanny but she'd scream. I've also tried leaving the house to work, having the nanny go get her from her first nap of the day (so she wouldn't see me), going to get her from the nap together. Everything I'm reading says when I leave the room she might whine but soon she'll be having fun: definitely not the case here. Today was the worst day of all... she cried for an hour straight while I was in my office listening, also crying, but I was not sure if me going to them would make it worse or better. I finally did go down to them and she calmed a little.
I really just don't know what to do. I do feel like this nanny is the right fit, she's patient and tries everything and understands it may take time. I think my daughter is really struggling with having a caregiver in our house that isn't me. For the last two months (since she left the daycare center) she has gotten used to me being around all the time, and I think we're in prime separation anxiety time. Though I've noticed when friends, neighbors, etc. hold her, she's just fine, it's only the nanny that totally freaks her out.
Will this correct itself in time? Am I wrong in thinking things should make some small amount of progress in week 2? Will it get worse before it gets better? I've scoured my parenting books for ideas to help this situation improve. I just feel helpless and horrible and I'm so sick to my stomach at the way it's going so far. I can tolerate a crying baby, but this is something else.
I would SO appreciate any ideas... I am open to anything that might help. I apologize that this is long.