My boyfriend and I are both 20, and we have been together for almost a year. When we first got together we had sex every day, and I loved that. Then we moved to every other day and it was totally fine with me. But for the past 9 months it's only been 4 or 5 times a month. He tells me that he wants me to start things to get him going, but every time I do, he rejects me, and it really hurts. I'm at the end of my rope, and I don't know what to do. I know he will watch porn and jack off, and I'm fine with that, but if he can do that why can't he have sex with me? He is pretty much perfect in every other way, but this is a deal breaker for me.

Simple.. the novelty has worn off.


When you first get together you always want it all the time because its new and exciting... when it becomes routine and familiar the excitement goes away...

Now is when you see how compatible you really are now that the lust has faded...

There are ways to keep it from becoming boring... but you have to both be on the same page. Its never going to be like it was at first... but it doesn't have to be "Jeeze Edith..cover that thing up" either.

I agree! The excitement does in fact go away, to where it probably won't be enjoyable.

Once or twice is a week is closer to the norm ( sadly it is) for many working couples, stress of money, being tired from work.

If he watches too much porn, that can be a issue, do you watch it together, role play, and the such.

But a man often takes care of his self since it is easy, takes less engergy and he does not have to worry about the other persons feeling.