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  • Nov 30, 2012, 12:17 PM
    Tori stone
    What is his problem?
    Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year. The first few months we were together we didn't live together so there wasn't a ton of sex which I figured would change when we moved in together... He is 26 I am 30, I am very sexual and very attracted to him... After moving in together I discovered he masturbates like everyday and a lot of times while I am there he just wants me to watch him do it and I'm like well this sucks lol! I have tried to talk to him nicely about it, telling him how much I enjoy haven sex with him and sending him little naughty texts ;) still nada.. I know he isn't cheating. So my question is do you think he is just oversexed from before me or just incredibly selfish or what? I know I am attractive and in very good shape so I just don't know what the problem is!! I don't want to end things at all I am going to marry this man, just wish I had some insight on why a guy his age is not more into sex. And when I say a lack of sex it's seriously likely maybe 1 a week. Oh and I ALWAYS have to be on top doing all the work!
  • Nov 30, 2012, 12:23 PM
    Oliver2011
    You seem surprised about all this yet you moved in with him? Did you not know him and just move in together? Maybe these things should be discovered and talked about first before making a huge step of moving in together (or marriage or having a baby, etc... ).
  • Nov 30, 2012, 12:28 PM
    Tori stone
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Oliver2011 View Post
    You seem surprised about all this yet you moved in with him? Did you not know him and just move in together? Maybe these things should be discovered and talked about first before making a huge step of moving in together (or marriage or having a baby, etc...).
    Well first off we have known each other 4 yrs moved in together after 5 months and like I said I figured once we moved in together the sex would pick up.. And how was I too know about his masturbation issues before hand, I don't believe this is something most men immediately discuss with their new partner.
  • Nov 30, 2012, 12:40 PM
    smoothy
    Maybe he gets the impression you are in a hurry to have a kid... and he isn't. Or there might be a lot more to this.

    Incidentally... woman on top is great not only for the guy.. it lets the woman adjust things to her best satisfaction as well so its great for her too.
  • Nov 30, 2012, 01:07 PM
    Tori stone
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by smoothy View Post
    Maybe he gets the impression you are in a hurry to have a kid...and he isn't. Or there might be a lot more to this.

    Incidently....woman on top is great not only for the guy..it lets the woman adjust things to her best satisfaction as well so its great for her too.
    We both already have a child a piece, mine is 11. We do not want more and even if we did I have my tubes are tied. Yea on top is OK sometimes but as most women do I need variety.
  • Nov 30, 2012, 01:09 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Tori stone View Post
    as most women do I need variety.
    Did I miss a survey somewhere? I don't understand this conclusion.
  • Nov 30, 2012, 02:33 PM
    backpack2389
    Maybe he is just lazy or maybe he likes the feeling of masturbation better. Have you tried to openly talk about this with him? Asked for more variety? Maybe he's just under the impression that you really prefer being on top. He's the only person that can truthfully tell you why he does what he does.

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