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  • Nov 28, 2012, 09:54 AM
    Mecca01
    Do I reach out or let go??
    My now ex boyfriend and I broke up a month ago. We had been really good friends for years prior to dating. He knew I had guys, but once we started dating he told me he had problem with them and that they had too much accessibility to me and I needed to let them go. I cut off some of my communication but I still tried to maintain the friendships while being in the relationship.
    There were other issues that followed. He actually broke up with me mid flight leaving his house. Days following the breakup I saw the two friends that I was forbidden to see to tell them what happened. Mind you I have known and been friends with these guys before I even met him. Well he got wind that I saw these guys and he got really upset, saying I hurt him how could I go running back to them less than 48 hours after I left him. He is the one who broke with me and I feel anything that I do/did after we broke up has no merit. He still has people telling him what I'm doing and he sends really ugly text messages. Oh and he is a mommas boy and she is involved now.
    Once she got involved I started the no contact, because it was getting ugly. I like/love this guy. I really want to be with him... really think he is the one. We haven't communicated for over two weeks now. I want to text/call but I'm afraid of the outcome. He doesn't trust me having guy friends because of a previous relationship involving a suppose to be guy friend. I explained to him, I am not her and these are truly my friends. He doesn't trust me, what should I do? Should I reach out or let go, I really want to be with him? I'm really hurt!
  • Nov 28, 2012, 10:00 AM
    smoothy
    How can he be "the one" if you are having these issues? If they are "the one" everything would be perfect or nearly perfect.

    I say let go. Just because he was a friend doesn't mean he would have made a good boyfriend or husband. Few people can make that transition.

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