Hello well its not really about dating but really need some advice , my ex and me split up about one month ago I caught him in bed with another woman , and found out since we finished he has had numerous women in the three years , I can't seem to get over this he abused me emotionally to. Any advice would be great thanks:(

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Originally Posted by loulou07

Hello well its not really about dating but really need some advice , my ex and me split up about one month ago i caught him in bed with another woman , and found out since we finished he has had numerous women in the three years , i can't seem to get over this he abused me emotionally to. any advice would be great thanks:(

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Hi Loulou, you have taken the first step towards dealing with what has happened, and the road to coming to terms with what your ex did.
I would suggest that you focus on you, the way you are doing now, from what you have mentioned he is a good riddance, but broken hearts can be mend. It takes time but you finally gain the trust it takes to get out of your predicament. After all you have said he did, take him for the bad guy he was, "he wasnt and is not and will never be worth you", take it from there and build the blocks away from the experiences you had with him

Talk it.

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Originally Posted by loulou07

Hello well its not really about dating but really need some advice , my ex and me split up about one month ago i caught him in bed with another woman , and found out since we finished he has had numerous women in the three years , i can't seem to get over this he abused me emotionally to. any advice would be great thanks:(

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You should try and find someone that can respect you and give you all the love you need. No one needs to be abused emotionally or physically. Moving on is just something you will have to do, the pain will eventually slowly go away. And maybe shutting him out of your social life would help you get through everything. That's what I did, and now, I'm happier than ever. Show him that you can move on, and that you don't need him. Wish u the best. Keep me updated.

First of all, you can't let the fact that this guy was a creep stop you from moving on and finding a nice guy... yes, they do exist. Secondly, I hope you are not looking at his behavior and saying to yourself, "What is wrong with me? Why didn't he want me?" because this is HIS problem, not yours. I hope you are able to move forward and put this one in the books as a write-off. You deserve to be treated with love and respect. If you beat yourself up over his infidelity you allow him to carry on abusing you. Good luck next time around.

You have to understand that this split is actually better for you, it's definitely his loss, I'm sooo sorry you walked in on him, for I have walked in on my ex too, it hurt, and I know how you're feeling, the thing you have to realize though, is that you not only let go of something negative, but you've freed yourself from someone who wasn't worth your time anyway, seriously, if he abused you emotionally, why are you letting this bother you? It's natural to be hurt and bothered, but think about the things you can do with your life now. You seem like a great woman, just give yourself time to heal, and soon enough, you'll run into someone who is worth your every second. Good luck and keep your head up, babe