How do you get over breaking up a ex boyfriend and his best friend. I knew what I was doing and so did the best friend. The friend told me he liked me and was so adorable when we hung out holding my hand kissing my forehead and saying sweet things. But whenever I asked to hang out he would say he wanted to but would say no.
After a lot of these circumstances I texted my old roommate who I thought was a friend and he ended up telling my ex. I wanted to tell my ex because were still good friends but the best friend didn't. We both thought it would kill him but we still went through it.
It ended in my ex fully forgiving me after exploding how he felt but not forgiving his best friend. How can I deal with him forgiving me and not the best friend. Granted its not all my fault they "broke up" but I should have not went through it. Now even when I try and have the best friends back, after he didn't have mine when being questioned by the ex, my ex will not forgive his best friend. He said he's done... and now the best friend won't talk to me. He told me to never contact him. I see both every day at work.. luckily the best friend and I are on different shifts. But how do I deal with this... why should the ex forgive me and not his best friend? Why is the ex acting so normal towards me... I keep breaking down knowing what I did... How do I get through this.

First things first; CALM DOWN! You won't get anywhere if you're super tense. Next; I'm not in your situation but I'm going through something similar(check my second profile question fir further details). I think I know what's wrong
A. Your ex thinks you broke up with him( If he broke up with you this answer is not valid) so you could go out with his best friend.
B. The best friend thinks it's all YOUR fault he and his friend are as you call it "broken up" even though it isn't.
Guys are just as, if not more, complicated as girls. Despite what guys say about girls being "hard to understand" or "upset for no reason at all" they can be, and usually are, super confusing.

You may have been part of it, but you did not break them up, the friends actions broke them up, and if he was already a ex, you really did nothing wrong

I don't get it. You imply that your ex your ex when all this happened. Then he has nothing to be upset about. He has no rights over you. An ex is an ex is an EX.

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

You may have been part of it, but you did not break them up, the friends actions broke them up, and if he was already a ex, you really did nothing wrong

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Thank you so much. That makes me feel better. Now my ex and I are friends because he forgave me but not his friend. Still the friend won't even look at me when I see him at work either. But the whole situation really just sucks.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

I don't get it. You imply that your ex your ex when all this happened. Then he has nothing to be upset about. He has no rights over you. An ex is an ex is an EX.

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Thanks... that's what I think also... but at the same time I don't think I would want him dating my best friend. But you can't help who you have feelings for and don't. I just wish it didn't end the way it did. But thank you for your insight.

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Originally Posted by Cocokinnut

First things first; CALM DOWN!! You won't get anywhere if you're super tense. Next; I'm not in your situation but I'm going through something similar(check my second profile question fir further details). I think I know what's wrong
A. Your ex thinks you broke up with him( If he broke up with you this answer is not valid) so you could go out with his best friend.
B. The best friend thinks it's all YOUR fault he and his friend are as you call it "broken up" even though it isn't.
Guys are just as, if not more, complicated as girls. Despite what guys say about girls being "hard to understand" or "upset for no reason at all" they can be, and usually are, super confusing.

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Thank you... I am much more calm about it now. Guys are very confusing too. Both females and guys suck with how we act haha.