I've been with him for two years and we just moved in together. I love him to pieces but sometimes I wonder if Id be happier if we split. In the entire time we've been together, we've never had sex due to medical conditions on his side. It is easily fixed by going to the doctors but he simply says he doesn't want to. This is the first problem. Any time I try and sit down with him and talk about a problem in our relationship he gets upset or angry and points out things I do wrong and then I feel guilty for bringing things up in the first place. When I go to see my friends, he complains and says I enjoy spending time with them more than him. I only go a
Few nights a week and try and invite him along but he just says no. I'm 21 and just feel like I'm missing out right now. I love him but I'm starting to feel unhappy and trapped.

Sounds like it's over really. If you're thinking this way now, it is only going to get worse over time. You already know this, don't you? I mean, deep down you already do. You just wanted to hear others say it so you know that you're right.

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Originally Posted by odinn7

Sounds like it's over really. If you're thinking this way now, it is only going to get worse over time. You already know this, don't you? I mean, deep down you already do. You just wanted to hear others say it so you know that you're right.

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I do think like that, but then when I think of not being with him or being with someone else its so... I don't know. Odd. And alien. And it makes me feel quite sick. Im so confused its frustrating

I understand. It's probably because you've been with him for 2 years and you also would feel guilty. To me though, it doesn't seem like he is willing to put very much effort into this relationship himself so then really, what do you have? He doesn't want to add to the relationship, you are unhappy the way it is. It will not magically get better.

Should you go on for the next few years or however long wasting your time being unhappy? Unfortunately, there is no simple answer.