Girlfriend taking a break
My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2 years now. I am 19 and she is 20 and I am the only guy she has ever been with. For some time now she has worked 1 day a week at the local bar and there is a guy a few years older in her that would often come into the bar with some friends. She befriended the guy and I conveyed that I thought his actions weren't simply being friendly I never pursued the issue any further. She is allowed to have male friends just as I should be allowed to have female friends. Last week she told me that she wasn't sure how she felt about this guy, as in when she talks to him she experiences a new feeling and she isn't sure how to react to this. I was understanding being that I am the only boyfriend she has ever had and I can understand her having this new feeling. She said she wanted to take a break because so that she can better come to grips with this new feeling she is experiencing. She said that she loves me and she has no problems with our relationship but she just doesn't want to ignore this feeling and have it come back to create more problems later.
Well its been over a week and towards the beginning we texted but did not call or come into physical contact. We've gone about 4 days without really any contact and today was the first time we saw each other, and spoke in person for just shortly. Later that night we were texting and we worked out that she is still texting the guy. I wondered why and she said so that she can learn what this feeling is. I am slightly worried that we try to minimize contact during this break but she continues to talk to the other guy during this break. I am at a loss of what to do... I give her all the space I can and I feel that this isn't working. I know that these last 10 days or so haven't been a lot in some peoples eyes but I don't know how long I should let this sort of break continue on? What should I do? What should I say? What should I think about all this?
