I'm 17, he's 19. I met him over the summer, and I grew a liking for him rather quickly. I think what was so beautiful about it was that I met him on Facebook through mutual friends, so I didn't really know what he looked like. It made it much more beautiful in my opinion, for I could like him just for him, not his looks. Will turned out to be 6 ft 7 inches tall, and I accepted that right away. He was perfect.
So this like turned into love, and rather fast. We were together about a month and a half, but I knew what I felt for him was love. I've never felt love before, but what I felt, and still do feel, for him I knew was love.
I find it hard for me to like a guy in the first place, which is why I find liking Will so surprising. And it's been nearly 4 months since we've broken up, and I want to get back together with him somehow. The only problem is... He believes in fate. That everything happens for a reason, and once something is over, there's no point in going back because god wanted it to be over.
I just don't know what to do! I know this is long, but I would appreciate any advice:)

I read in an article that girls look for qualities in their ideal guy that are the same in their father. Well my problem is, I never knew my father. Does this have some of the reason to do with why it's hard for me to like guys for a long period? For example, I'll like a guy, but once we start dating its like I'm done liking him.

First part first: there's absolutely nothing you can do when someone falls out of love. Whatever they say, whether it's God or troubles or I fell for someone else or I'm off to see the world, none of it matters. Most of it is just a kind of cover for 'sorry, I just don't feel for you anymore.' I assume that you are still in high school and he isn't, and that is a HUGE factor in what can change things. Suddenly he is much much older at 19 than you are at 17. You had a summer romance, basically, and he moved on, and that's the way it happens 99.9% of the time.
Second part: we can't generalize about why we are attracted to a certain kind of person, whether a father, mother, teacher, someone next door, actor, or just some dream ideal. And at age 17, it's normal to not be attracted to someone very long. You went out with this man for a mere month and a half, and now are clinging to a vision of what was, not what would be. For all you know you might have fallen out of love with him too. But we all 'remember our first love' and the trick is to just cherish it as a nice memory.

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First part first: there's absolutely nothing you can do when someone falls out of love. Whatever they say, whether it's God or troubles or I fell for someone else or I'm off to see the world, none of it matters. Most of it is just a kind of cover for 'sorry, I just don't feel for you anymore.' I assume that you are still in high school and he isn't, and that is a HUGE factor in what can change things. Suddenly he is much much older at 19 than you are at 17. You had a summer romance, basically, and he moved on, and that's the way it happens 99.9% of the time.
Second part: we can't generalize about why we are attracted to a certain kind of person, whether a father, mother, teacher, someone next door, actor, or just some dream ideal. And at age 17, it's normal to not be attracted to someone very long. You went out with this man for a mere month and a half, and now are clinging to a vision of what was, not what would be. For all you know you might have fallen out of love with him too. But we all 'remember our first love' and the trick is to just cherish it as a nice memory.

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I couldn't have said it better myself, I completely agree.

You can't force someone to love you, no matter how much you love them. It takes two. What you want, won't change what he wants.

Breakups are hard, but you have to accept that this is over. The more time you spend hoping to change his mind, the more time you'll waste, while you could be moving on.

You can't make him love you. You can't make him take you back. There's nothing you can do about this. You are who you are, and you're perfect for someone, just not him. The sooner you accept that, the better off you'll be.