Ask Me Help Desk - My mum won't let me audition!

A few months ago I sent off a request to audition for Britons got talent. Before I sent it off I double checked with my mum and dad. Yesterday I got a reply saying I was picked to audition. I was so excited I was jumping up and down!! Today they had a go at me for not asking permission to apply! I tried to tell them I did but they were having none of it. They then said I couldn't go! My dad said "what's your talent" and my mum said "wait till next year."
This is what they said last year. This always happens. They always ruin it for me. They didn't tell me whilst I was texting and emailing and writing letters to my friends. They told me after I had sent all these off. All of my other family and friends support me but it seems they don't. Please help!!

You haven't told us how old you are or how far you are from the auditions, and how much it would all cost your parents.
Your best option is to enlist the aid of other family. I doubt that your parents will listen to your friends.
I'm all for talent shows, even though thousands of people audition and only a few get to be on TV, and out of those few only a very tiny few get any recognition. Plus there are more and more shows nowadays, and it gets a little tedious for those of us watching. But if you DO have talent, you will survive your parents' obstacles. In fact it will make you stronger, because you will be facing tons of disappointments as you struggle to be appreciated. The fact that they don't even know what your talent is has me a little worried! Why haven't you been practicing in front of them?
So I am asking 4 questions, 3 in the first sentence and 1 at the end. Answer below if you wish.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

You haven't told us how old you are or how far you are from the auditions, and how much it would all cost your parents.
Your best option is to enlist the aid of other family. I doubt that your parents will listen to your friends.
I'm all for talent shows, even though thousands of people audition and only a few get to be on TV, and out of those few only a very tiny few get any recognition. Plus there are more and more shows nowadays, and it gets a little tedious for those of us watching. But if you DO have talent, you will survive your parents' obstacles. In fact it will make you stronger, because you will be facing tons of disappointments as you struggle to be appreciated. The fact that they don't even know what your talent is has me a little worried! Why haven't you been practicing in front of them?
So I am asking 4 questions, 3 in the first sentence and 1 at the end. Answer below if you wish.

I do practise in front of them and they always comment on how good I am. But the fact they said this got me feeling really disappointed. I was less then 10 days away from auditioning. I was all excited but then only just told me today. I had spent at least 2 years practising and organising everything. This dragged me down as well. I am only young. I won't give my age for safety reasons but I'm under 15. It wouldn't cost my parents anthing apart from getting there (fuel), their time and maybe food and drink. I don't understand. If you do the please tell me.

I mean disappointed about them asking what my talent is. Not them commenting about I good I am

They probably thought you had no chance of winning an audition. Wouldn't there be hotel costs too?

Telling your real name is a safety concern. Telling your real age is not.

You have been preparing for two years? And your parents approved of that but still said no? If you have been practicing in front of them, why the comment "what's your talent"?

OK, so your dad was being facetious (a kind of joking; he knows your talent is singing).
You are totally anonymous here so can state your age. Under 15 is enough, really, because I would guess that MOST parents won't let their teens under 15 go on TV. Talk about safety concerns! Just because you see some really young performers doesn't mean that thousands of them aren't told by parents that they can't be on TV. It isn't that they are trying to destroy your desire to sing. You can't possibly understand all that can happen once you are in the limelight.
As I said, this will make you stronger. You NEED defeat because you will crumble the first time a Simon Cowell type tells you how terrible you are. Strength is super important. Surely you watch the faces of singers when they are criticized. Can you imagine what it's like? Do you fall apart easily?
Here's what I suggest to show you are more mature: gather some family and friends together just for 20 minutes of singing, and ask them to CRITIQUE each song. Tell them you want them to be as brutal as they can be (although critique doesn't mean being critical per se; it includes praise as well) but tell them no praise at all this time, so that you can learn to be prepared for the big wide world.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

They probably thought you had no chance of winning an audition. Wouldn't there be hotel costs too?

Telling your real name is a safety concern. Telling your real age is not.

You have been preparing for two years? And your parents approved of that but still said no? If you have been practicing in front of them, why the comment "what's your talent"?

I don't know. Thanks. I forgot about the hotel costs. Why would they think I won't win. To be honest, I never thought I was going to win but... I don't know. I don't know why they said what's your talent but it hurt me

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Originally Posted by joypulv

OK, so your dad was being facetious (a kind of joking; he knows your talent is singing).
You are totally anonymous here so can state your age. Under 15 is enough, really, because I would guess that MOST parents won't let their teens under 15 go on TV. Talk about safety concerns! Just because you see some really young performers doesn't mean that thousands of them aren't told by parents that they can't be on TV. It isn't that they are trying to destroy your desire to sing. You can't possibly understand all that can happen once you are in the limelight.
As I said, this will make you stronger. You NEED defeat because you will crumble the first time a Simon Cowell type tells you how terrible you are. Strength is super important. Surely you watch the faces of singers when they are criticized. Can you imagine what it's like? Do you fall apart easily?
Here's what I suggest to show you are more mature: gather some family and friends together just for 20 minutes of singing, and ask them to CRITIQUE each song. Tell them you want them to be as brutal as they can be (although critique doesn't mean being critical per se; it includes praise as well) but tell them no praise at all this time, so that you can learn to be prepared for the big wide world.

Thank you for the advice. I will try it. No I'm not a person who will cry easily. As part of my training to be on bgt, I said to myself that I wouldn't let somebody's opinion ruin my life. But it's different coming from my dad. He's normally full of phrase and criticise me when I need it. Thanks again for the advice. I will have a go at it

I know my age isn't a safety concern but I just wrote it without a second thought. As long as I don't write my name I should be fine.

Did the reply come via email or snail mail? Make sure it is legitimate. Someone could be having some fun at your expense. If your parents see that, wouldn't they believe it's true?

So how old are you? I'm guessing 11 or 12 (thus your parents' concerns).