My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and have two children together we seem to have the same problem every time he gets something new or something good happens in his life... New job new car new apartment etc . Anyway he starts to act really brand new with new hairstyles starts lot ending to different music hanging with younger guys even started smoking again it really bugs me. I found numbers in his hone from different females he says he loves me and our children and just doesn't know what he wants as far as me and having the single life because he can't trust but he has the same issues every time. I don't know what to do he is a different person like every couple months what do I do?!

Why haven't you two gotten married?

He said he wanted things to be great when we got married... Financially I mean.There is always a courthouse though then a big wedding later. I feel it's an excuse

If over five years he is a different person every couple of months, why would you consider extending the relationship LET ALONE having two kids? Hopefully you are taking precautions to not have a third while this is sorted.

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Originally Posted by Meranda0631

He said he wanted things to be great when we got married...Financially I mean.There is always a courthouse though then a big wedding later. I feel it's an excuse

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Yes, it's an excuse. We were dirt poor, had a basic wedding, a reception with cake and punch (no meal, no liquor, no band, no huge crowd) to which every wedding guest was invited, and no financial obligation. The marriage has lasted for over 45 years.

I know it's an excuse and by the way we don't have sex at all. It was about 6 or 7 months ago the last time we actually touched each other. We don't even kiss or hold hands nothing at all. Which is fine with me as far as sex goes but not being intimate at all drains me. Not having any type of commitment drains me as well especially after 5 years. I love him I really do but I growing tired of the same things. I want things to work but it takes two and time also effort if only one wants it then there is no use. All he ever says when we talk is I love my family I want my family and blah blah blah... but doesn't show me anything. Financially he is a great provider but emotionally physically and mentally he sucks.

Would he go with you to couples counseling?

You know I've never asked I've thought about it. Maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea.