If you saw my first question, it said pretty much I was having these thoughts that I didn't like telling me I was gay even though from the time I hit puberty I have been attracted to females. So I wanted to ask to help put these thoughts haunting me to rest, how did you (as in a gay person viewing this) find out you were gay? Was it sudden realization over a period or did you know from the start? Anything will help, I'm fed up with these thoughts, I do ignore them and they go away but then they come back. I just want peace of mind, I said before I know there is no wrong in being gay but I don't want to be it, end of story. I feel like these thoughts are swallowing me sometimes! I used to hate gays because I was raised in a Catholic home but now I know they aren't bad at all. I'm a 15 year old in high school in need of answers. I also think these thoughts may contribute to the fact I have no history with girls, not even a kiss. Please answer, please help! Thank you!

Relax. Rome wasn't built in a day and neither are you. Your sexuality is all crazy right now with hormones churning all through your body. Human sexuality is fluid and in the teens is still a work in progress. Most of my gay/lesbian friends/relatives knew they were that way from little on, but a few said it was a dawning realization.

Just hang out with boys and girls and make good friends right now. No one is pushing you to commit to anything.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Relax. Rome wasn't built in a day and neither are you. Your sexuality is all crazy right now with hormones churning all through your body. Human sexuality is fluid and in the teens is still a work in progress. Most of my gay/lesbian friends/relatives knew they were that way from little on, but a few said it was a dawning realization.

Just hang out with boys and girls and make good friends right now. No one is pushing you to commit to anything.

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Thank you! I understand, just wait it out, I will do so!

I agree with Wondergirl ^ (I would have said it was helpful but it wouldn't let me)

I have a gay friend who is 15 and he said he knew in like 5th grade that he just wsnt attracted to girls... he dated some and kissed some just to see if he liked it and he didn't... then freshman year he kissed a boy and everything is different... sometimes it takes some experimenting and that is fine you have a lot of time to figure out who you are :) And like Wondergirl said: Relax :)

My best friend is gay and a close female member is bi. And I have several bi friends.

The main issue is at 15 most kids have no idea what they are completely, esp if they may be bi.
And often a person who is gay, if they are bought up in a anti gay home, will fight the feelings, denying what they feel.

It is not right to hate anyone for who they are, esp if they are not bothering or effecting your life.

For my friend who is gay, he felt confused in high school, he dated girls but it never felt right, but his church ( he was catholic also) taugh him that being gay was a serious sin and evil and he was headed to hell for even thinking that. So it was not till he got to college that he finally accepted who he was.

Most of my bi friends from the 60's and 70s just experimented with all sorts of sex and found they enjoyed sex, and that doing so or being so was right for them.
This does not mean they can just sleep around and use that for an excuse, many decided on a girl or boy and keep long term relationships or marriage.

My other friend, is just finding out about it, she denyed them for years and many people always felt she was but now she is looking at that part of her sexuality.

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My best friend is gay and a close female member is bi. And I have several bi friends.

The main issue is at 15 most kids have no idea what they are completely, esp if they may be bi.
And often a person who is gay, if they are bought up in a anti gay home, will fight the feelings, denying what they feel.

It is not right to hate anyone for who they are, esp if they are not bothering or effecting your life.

For my friend who is gay, he felt confused in high school, he dated girls but it never felt right, but his church ( he was catholic also) taugh him that being gay was a serious sin and evil and he was headed to hell for even thinking that. So it was not till he got to college that he finally accepted who he was.

Most of my bi friends from the 60's and 70s just experimented with all sorts of sex and found they enjoyed sex, and that doing so or being so was right for them.
This does not mean they can just sleep around and use that for an excuse, many decided on a girl or boy and keep long term relationships or marriage.

My other friend, is just finding out about it, she denyed them for years and many people always felt she was but now she is looking at that part of her sexuality.

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I do not have anything against gays, but you know I've been getting over this whole thing lately, I think it's just the hormones like the first person to comment said, I'm in no form of denial! I'm starting to feel happy again! Like a weight is off my shoulders because when I get the thought of being gay, not gay activity, it's followed by calm down its your hormones! But thanks anyway!

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I agree with Wondergirl ^ (i would have said it was helpfull but it wouldnt let me)

I have a gay friend who is 15 and he said he knew in like 5th grade that he just wsnt attracted to girls....he dated some and kissed some just to see if he liked it and he didnt...then freshman year he kissed a boy and everything is different....sometimes it takes some experimenting and that is fine you have alot of time to figure out who you are :) And like Wondergirl said: Relax :)

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Yeah I think wondergirl was right, I'm starting to shake this thing. I've known I'm straight this whole time since I was little, like kindergarten! I was worried that these thoughts were going to make me gay, now I just dismiss them and say whatever! Plus I've also come to accept gays, which was a step to shaking these repetitive thoughts! Thank you though for the advice!

Im glad I could help :)