I love my ex-girlfriend a lot. We are in a relationship for more than four years. It's from 2006-2011. But after 4 years (in 2010) I came to another country for the sake of studies so we are in long distance relation for a year.

But finally something went wrong and she started avoiding me and she didn't replied to my calls, messages and mails so finally I moved on and started NC rule.

After 1 year recently I sent a message. She replied me and she was talking in strange way like she can't love me but she can give me her life. And she is behaving in a strange way.

So can any one tell me what should I do to bring her back into my life again. And one more thing we are still in long distance. So will it work?? Please let me know.

You said she said she can't love you but she can give you her life. Not qite clear. But this is what I have to say, is she willing to get back with u. Cause if it's only you, waoh, it might not really work. But you could keep up with her gradually and slowly and see how it goes. If she finds you "worthy" enough to fill the space, I bet she might not mind the distance. And one more thing, if none of you guys "cheat away from hme". It could work, but first try winning her over slowly, cause she too wants something. Find out also. That will help you.

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Originally Posted by casmonas

You said she said she can't love you but she can give you her life. Not qite clear. But this is what I have to say, is she willing to get back with u. Cause if it's only you, waoh, it might not really work. But you could keep up with her gradually and slowly and see how it goes. If she finds you "worthy" enough to fill the space, I bet she might not mind the distance. And one more thing, if none of you guys "cheat away from hme". It could work, but first try winning her over slowly, cause she too wants something. Find out also. That will help you.

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As I told she is talking to me behaving as the same with me.. but she don't love me... I don't know what's wrong... she want me to be happy... she is thinking that I might feel happy without her... so how can I talk to her to pull her from that kind of thoughts... I am trying to avoid the old conversations... starting fresh converstaions but the thing is long distance... so here comes the problem... she is saying that she don't have any emotions and feelings now on anyone... please tell me what should I talk to her daily...

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Originally Posted by coolguy125

As i told she is talking to me behaving as the same with me..but she dont love me...i dont know whats wrong...she want me to be happy...she is thinking that i might feel happy without her....so how can i talk to her to pull her from that kind of thoughts...i am trying to avoid the old conversations....starting fresh converstaions but the thing is long distance...so here comes the problem.....she is saying that she dont have any emotions and feelings now on anyone...please tell me what should i talk to her daily...

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Give her some time. But, watch it, if it's not working,let it go. As you can see, it's really disturbing you. And that might not be exactly the kind of distraction you might want now.

I think somehow she has been hurt and needs an emotional tampon until she gets over what ever she has gone through.

Find out whatever is her problem before you give her your heart again. No I would not have high hope at all that this will work, because it didn't work before, did it?

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Originally Posted by casmonas

Give her some time. But, watch it, if it's not working,let it go. As you can see, it's really disturbing you. And that might not be exactly the kind of distraction you might want now.

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Yeah I will give her some time and I don't want to stress her much regarding this... but there is something I feel she is hiding with me.. I don't know what it is.. but for now I am just talking to her in a formal way.. I don't know whether it work out or not..

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I think somehow she has been hurt and needs an emotional tampon until she gets over what ever she has gone thru.

Find out whatever is her problem before you give her your heart again. No I would not have high hope at all that this will work, because it didn't work before, did it?

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I tried to figure out but no response from her... she is totally depressed.. may be she is feeling guilt about break up of our relation... and that too at the time of our break up I behaved harshly with her to know what the reason behind... I am not giving heart again but I don't know it's a kind of feeling which I can't express.. but I missed her a lot... she replied me as that I am the wonderful person in this world whom she never forget... and also she said that she trust me lot... but I don't know what she is thinking and what her intention is... if I ask something her answer is always silence... what should I do??

Leave her alone to figure her stuff out, and add no pressure with all the questions.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Leave her alone to figure her stuff out, and add no pressure with all the questions.

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Yeah, thank you so much