I've been this relationship for about two years now. We broke up for about two months during our relationship. My partner ended up sleeping with someone three times and another individual once. I did not find out about it until after we got back together and I thought it was something I could move pass. However, I haven't and it has been seven months since. I know that we were broken up and I feel that it shouldn't matter but deep down it does. Should I still be so hung up on the past? Also, knowing that he slept with other women makes me extremely insecure about showing myself to him for fear of him comparing me to the others. Do guys compare their women, or is that just an insecurity that women hold?
How do I help myself move passed the past? Since I've been dealing with this struggle I have had low self-esteem. I think less of myself, I've become more dull, more negative, and I have lost a great amount of confidence. Is it normal for a situation like this to cause a complex within a person?

You guys were not together, it shouldn't matter.. It's just something is women hold... They don't compare us.. If they do, the 1 they are with is always the best :)

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Originally Posted by Lorettah91

You guys were not together, it shouldn't matter.. It's just something is women hold... They don't compare us.. If they do, the 1 they are with is always the best :)

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Yes, men don't compare women, but if you keep bringing up what he did is going to end up in a break-up. Depending on how much you love him. Research, find different ways to make yourself look and feel great about yourself. Make him want you and only you. Trust me Im going through self-esteem issues myself. Girl trust what Im telling you. I got guys noticing me every which way. My guy is so crazy over it that he is now the insecure person. So don't let what he did get the best of you. Re find yourself, show him who is worthy and that you're a better lover now then ever.