I've been in a strong relationship with this guy for 2 years. Then I find out on my birthday he also has another girl. I talk to her and she says she's been dating him for 3-4 months now and she had no clue.

I ask him what he is doing with us and he tells me he is in love with me but he loves her. He told me I'm the love of his life, and I ask her did he say the same thing and it was exactly the same. How can someone be in love and love someone else.

He sounds like a player who is telling you both what you want to hear.

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

He sounds like a player who is telling you both what you want to hear.

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Thank you,I had a feeling. I guess it's best to just move on no matter how much of the pain.

He may not be in love with either of you. He is feeding you both a line. I hope you're not still with him.

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Originally Posted by MakepeaceNOTwar

thank you,I had a feeling. I guess it's best to just move on no matter how much of the pain.

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Yes, as hard as it might be, I would just move on. Same goes for the other girl. You BOTH can do better than this guy.

We humans can love many, but don't have to lie and cheat about it. Dump the lying cheater.

It is possible to love more than one person. It is also possible to be a player and have your cake and eat it too. Most people could not stand to be an "also" in a relationship. However more importantly he is lying to you. I wouldn't tolerate dishonesty because the dishonesty will only grow and grow.

I don't get people that can have an open relationship. The thought of someone else touching the person I love would drive me insane.